"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Tihash's Daytime Approach Journal

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Approach #184

This is last week at B&N. See a cute girl in the travel aisle. I see she is looking at a travel book on New Mexico. I open her on that. A nice 20 minute conversation later, and I close but she has a bf. Dang, I wouldn't want my gf talking to random dudes for 20 minutes at the bookstore. lol Next!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Approach #185

This is at Super Target in the frozen foods. I see a cute girl, and I procrastinate a few seconds. Then an old lady in a motorized chair thingy rolls up and asks me if I can hand her two of the Swanson Chicken Fried Chicken frozen meals from the freezer case. No joke. So I am a good Boy Scout and help her out.

When I do, I notice #185 makes eye contact with me. I then go to the freezer case next to her, and she is lingering and sort of tapping her foot on the floor in an attention-getting maneuver. Hmmm... could it be more obvious?

Me: What kind of food is it that vegans do not eat?
Her: blah blah blah
Me: BS about hosting a dinner where many people will be vegans

We have a nice 10-15 minutes convo. During it, she mentions she had had Lasic surgery on her eyes. After I had pulled the "You're really cute... what's your name" but before I tried to close, I asked her what her doctor's name was. She said, "I don't remember off hand. Take my number and text me, and I'll let you know."

I felt comfortable texting her the same day after such obvious indications she wanted to cut to the chase. We have plans for drinks Thurs night. We shall see...
 

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Where have I been?

Well, since last Fall there has been a lot going on personally. I had some family illnesses, my dog passed away, and through it all was my primary by my side.

However, I still get the nagging notion that I can do better than her so I do need to pick up sarging again. It will be rough and I will be rusty, but I'll be back in the saddle soon...
 

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Approach #186

This was a couple of months ago. I was at a Panera Bread and this chick had an IPAD. I opened her with, "hey, is that an IPAD?" (really clever, huh?) as I walked past her table outside. Pleasant convo, got the number, she never responded. Next!
 

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Approach #187

This is maybe 6 weeks ago. To my disappointment, they closed most Borders bookstores in my area (and in your area, too!).

I was at a going out of business sale at one, and I see a cute girl. Open her easily re: what she was looking at. Very easy, very smooth, and very cool 30 minute convo. She easily gives up the digits. I call the next day (she is moving out of town in a couple of weeks) and leave a message. No response. A few days later I text "playing hard to get already?" and of course I get the response so sorry, she was busy, B.S. Another flake.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Amazing journal thiash, really inspiring. It's unbelievable how many girls just flake all the time.. Keep putting in the effort and it won't be long before you find the girl of you dreams i'm sure.
 
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