Tightening up communication

[anonymous12345]

I need to tighten up my communication with women, my texting is much better than face to face. One challenge I have here is that I practice dance as well as other creative fields with them which sets very friendly, cooperative frames over it all. Therefore I say to myself:

• Don’t impress
• Don’t pamper
• Don’t complain
• Polarize
• More break report that alignment
• Be charming
• Talk less
• Integrity

Sounds good to me. I do most of this already, but perhaps too eager, thirsty, entertaining.

Otoh I need to initiate, drive and lightly seduce so at some points it involve more activity since I’m no super star, though avoiding clowning.

It’s not about jumping into bed or being overtly sexual I’d say. I’m looking for a style that is more attractive overall and leads to more escalation, continuation though. I believe these things are malleable, at least for me.

Comments?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

What are the interactions like face to face and where do you feel you are struggling?

 

[anonymous12345]

I got SMV and approaches/day game in order, it just leads to nothing. Ghosting, no dates. Maybe I'm too short, 170 cm, but that isn't disastrous.

It feels like despite SMV that I don't manage to ignite interest/attraction. Some are more naturals in that area, the girl bursting up in laughter, etc. I think I need a more "manly spirit", more charm, more bantering.

In cases where women take initiative I have a bit of fear/nervousness it seems, but that's a different problem. At least had.