Thwarted by Safety Objections. Is there anything I Could Do Better?

[nicksaiz65]

I’ve been out Nightgaming quite a bit since moving to a bigger city, and my wing and I have run into a pretty consistent issue.

Whether in the club or on the street, we’ll talk to some girls that seem pretty down. We then invite them to an afterparty back at the house after being in the interaction for a while. And inevitably, before we get to the car to drive them over, we get a safety objection, and the set gets blown out. This has happened 3x within the last month and a half.

EXAMPLES:
- One girl is down and the other throws a safety objection. The down friend is glaring at her friend the whole time.
- Both seem down, and then they stop and say “we’re not comfortable with going to guys houses who we don’t know. That’s how you get serial murdered!”
- Last night, same deal. One down friend and the non-down friend throws a safety objection about how they’re not comfortable with going to guys houses who they don’t know, and she wants to get Taco Bell. Blows out the set.

It’s true that the only common denominator in these sets is us. So what I wanted to know is, should I just chalk this up to the randomness of the game or is there anything that I could be doing technically better here?

 

[BPH]

I think you're running into this problem BECAUSE of your wing.

Unless both girls are interested in both of you, at least one of them will be worried about hanging out with guys they don't know - plural. So in that case the fact that you both have to run into two other girls of high interest in the same friend group for either of you to have a shot isn't helping.

Two ways around this;

1. Don't try to double date with your wing/don't use a wing
2. Invite yourself/yourselves over to THEIR place where they'll likely feel much safer

You're welcome.