So was walking around my office park at lunch, about a half mile loop with various corporate death factories on either side. Spot a cute indian chick with her friend and say hi on the first pass (trying to say hi to everyone i pass). On the second pass (we are walkin in opposite directions on the loop) we have about 3-4 seconds of "lets go fvck in the bushes" eye contact as we pass each other. So now im like damn i need to stop them the next go round and say something. But i had no idea what to say and let them pass. If it was just her i woulda had no prob stopping and chatting but how should i have engaged both of them? I dont want to just single out the babe and ignore her friend.. Invite them both to lunch sometime i guess? Ask for just the one girls number? Kicking myself now haha.. Hopefully see her again if i didnt kill all momemtum by pussing out.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Thrown off by her friend, what was the move here?
- Thread starter jurry
- Start date
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
spiegel549
Senior Don Juan
You can't be afraid of approaching a girl if she is in a group. I am the guy in my group of guy friends that makes the approach to a group of women and gets them to come over to my friends.jurry said:
You don't ask them both out. You stop the Indian girl and you could of just been flirty like "Hey excuse me, wow..your really beautiful whats your name?" If she responds with a smile or laughs and gives you her name you introduce yourself to her, and also introduce yourself to her friend then ask the indian girl out by saying "listen I'd like to take you out sometime, go do something fun, would you be up for that?" If she says yes you say "ok great why don't you give me your number and ill give you a call to set something up" get her number. Say goodbye to the girl and her friend, you walk away.
Its all about body language and how she reacts. I have done so many approaches and I work in an industry where my job is to study body language that you can tell if she is into you or not. If you got the fvk me in the bushes stare then you shoulda stopped her.
I got a girls number at mcdonalds the other day hahah she was this super cute prob 21-22 year old latina who took my order and the second I walked up I said "wow...you are so pretty" and she turned beat red lol. Got her number and there ya go.
Take a chance, worse they can say is no.
Yep yep right you are! Thanks for the feedback. That 2-3 second window is so crucial, got to just strike when you feel it and that is usually when i psych myself out. I was also feeling that i should get into a longer conversation and see where it goes but it sounds like you prefer quick approach, wow youre beautiful whats your name, wana hang out sometime get the number boom done. Would you guys agree quick in and out is best way? Cold approach is by far the biggest liability in my game really need to step it up and embrace the fear.