MrWood
Master Don Juan
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Threw out my LTR of 1.5 years the other night
- Thread starter Barrister
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Dude I am 100% right there with you. My GF thinks I'm always cheating (which I never have) just because I work late one day, work on the weekend, park my car in a different spot than usual, workout more, etc. I'm exaggerating but I hear you. I've already stood my ground numerous times and have made it clear I will not put up with this BS of hers. However, it's a revolving door. It's a constant battle and frankly I've come to realize she likes when I put her in her place. She likes to be checked every now and then because she wants the confirmation that I am emotionally invested in the relationship. I've tried the "aloof" reaction and it made things worse. This may not be the case with your girl but just wanted to offer another perspective.
Barrister
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Thanks for the replies, fellas. The stuff about her projecting onto me her own cheating (or maybe at least crossing lines into being inappropriate) is a little concerning to me. I think I am just going to pull way back at this point and see how it plays out. It has worked in the past to get her back on track.