MrWood
Master Don Juan
nearly 100% of the time
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Threw out my LTR of 1.5 years the other night
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Dude I am 100% right there with you. My GF thinks I'm always cheating (which I never have) just because I work late one day, work on the weekend, park my car in a different spot than usual, workout more, etc. I'm exaggerating but I hear you. I've already stood my ground numerous times and have made it clear I will not put up with this BS of hers. However, it's a revolving door. It's a constant battle and frankly I've come to realize she likes when I put her in her place. She likes to be checked every now and then because she wants the confirmation that I am emotionally invested in the relationship. I've tried the "aloof" reaction and it made things worse. This may not be the case with your girl but just wanted to offer another perspective.
Barrister
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Thanks for the replies, fellas. The stuff about her projecting onto me her own cheating (or maybe at least crossing lines into being inappropriate) is a little concerning to me. I think I am just going to pull way back at this point and see how it plays out. It has worked in the past to get her back on track.