"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Three cheers for Kino, yet again

Hughman

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Just my two cents for the day, kino (as part of a general 'new' 'confident' character) is very very good.

End.

But seriously, I don't know if it's just because I'm more aware of it, but since I've had the nerve to do kino, I get so much more attention from everyone, verbal and physical (yes, that's men included - I willingly jokingly punch my mates, but then again, I'm becoming more confident and stronger by the week).

As an AFC, I'd crave to get the occasional hug from a girl that was leaving. Now it's pretty much customary to get at least a cheek kiss off them as I leave (I nearly always leave before they, gives me excuses to make finishes, creates mystery etc etc).

I'll readily grind girls - I'm still nervous when I don't have a bit of drink in my system, and it must show a bit as I get politely redirected [but not out-right-rejected]. It's that or the girls inhibitions are up as they too are sober. But as they say, practice makes perfect.

Whether kino is the reason for the positive change, or just part of the better mindset I can't say, but everything I've read indicates it is the mindset, not some set routine of tricks and plays.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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how do u create mystery with a girl? leaving early or ignoring her a little bit
 

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Not answering her personal questions directly.

Not telling her how your day was like each time you talk to her.

Text/call her in the night instead of the day. It shows you are a busy man in the day.
 
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