Just curious. You start to get involved with a girl, and she tells you in months time she'll be moving away. But it doesn't seem to add up...she won't leave you alone, is qualifying herself to you, always wants to know what you're up to, gives you every buying signal possible... Would a chick put it on the line like that?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Threatened to move away?
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
SteakAndRice
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It means she wants you to move away with her.
LOL. Not ready for anything like that. This chick is still testing my branch.SteakAndRice said:It means she wants you to move away with her.
KontrollerX
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SteakAndRice's answer is the most logical and likely reset and I agree with it.
I'd wager an AW that was moving away would do this to a guy too for some last minute attention seeking and validation but you know their kind well so it can't be one of them.
I'd wager an AW that was moving away would do this to a guy too for some last minute attention seeking and validation but you know their kind well so it can't be one of them.
She's not an AW. I've know her for almost a year now, she had a boyfriend so I held back, kept her coming after me, coming after me, you know the drill. We've been doing that whole branch testing dance thing.
A few weeks ago she said out of the blue she was planning to move back to another city in this state, where she went to school to pursue her music career (we're both into that). I didn't really say much about it.
Then last week she tells me she's going to break up with the bf (offers all this info to me, I've never even discussed him with her), move into a new apartment. Oh yeah she's ALSO going to move to the other side of the world in a few months. And I'm like well I guess you're at that age where you can pick up and move on (she's 24, been with this guy for four years) and she's like you can too, you have no wife or children here. You're better than this place (we work together) etc.
At this point she's all over me, and I made maybe the mistake of telling her that I was interested in her. Probably walked right into it. No sort of closing yet.
And I'm like all this has been building up for her to just move away on a whim? Yeah, obviously I really like this girl. But what's the sense in taking something further if she's just going to split. She's still living with this guy. For awhile. Or maybe longer. I don't know. Supposedly she's in the new apartment in a week or so.
I'm not ashamed to admit I'm a little confused here.
A few weeks ago she said out of the blue she was planning to move back to another city in this state, where she went to school to pursue her music career (we're both into that). I didn't really say much about it.
Then last week she tells me she's going to break up with the bf (offers all this info to me, I've never even discussed him with her), move into a new apartment. Oh yeah she's ALSO going to move to the other side of the world in a few months. And I'm like well I guess you're at that age where you can pick up and move on (she's 24, been with this guy for four years) and she's like you can too, you have no wife or children here. You're better than this place (we work together) etc.
At this point she's all over me, and I made maybe the mistake of telling her that I was interested in her. Probably walked right into it. No sort of closing yet.
And I'm like all this has been building up for her to just move away on a whim? Yeah, obviously I really like this girl. But what's the sense in taking something further if she's just going to split. She's still living with this guy. For awhile. Or maybe longer. I don't know. Supposedly she's in the new apartment in a week or so.
I'm not ashamed to admit I'm a little confused here.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
No. She's not available. May be becoming available.Telos said:Have you ****ed? Do you have a sexual relationship?
aussiegoat55
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This is what they told us in high school about class selection. If you have a friend who wants to take French as a language and you decide to take French as well just to be in the same class as your friend but don't really have any interest in French and your friend develops a passion for French and wants to study French culture/language in Paris and you decide to tag along, well..., who's life are you living? Somewhat of a similar analogy to yours.
So I'll give you some of the same advice you gave me. Do what YOU want. Follow your passions. Don't live her life. Now suppose you have the same passions, dreams, and goals. Do you really know her well enough to pack up and change your current life, unlike her boyfriend of 4 years, that seems more appropiate? May sound fun, adventurous, and hey, some risks pay great rewards. But do you trust her?
If there was any hesitation to the trust question I wouldn't be so hasty as to run off. Give it some time, think about it, collect some new information which should help you make a decison
What it all boils down to is doing what you want, doing what feels "right" inside, doing what your gut feels.
Keep us up to date.
So I'll give you some of the same advice you gave me. Do what YOU want. Follow your passions. Don't live her life. Now suppose you have the same passions, dreams, and goals. Do you really know her well enough to pack up and change your current life, unlike her boyfriend of 4 years, that seems more appropiate? May sound fun, adventurous, and hey, some risks pay great rewards. But do you trust her?
If there was any hesitation to the trust question I wouldn't be so hasty as to run off. Give it some time, think about it, collect some new information which should help you make a decison
What it all boils down to is doing what you want, doing what feels "right" inside, doing what your gut feels.
Keep us up to date.
Thanks aussie. Of course I wouldn't move to a different country for a girl. The other city she mentioned, probably, but it would be because I want to move to big city anyway. But that's like, a hell of a ways off.
She moved here a year ago to follow him from that city. I think she wants to move back. I don't really believe she's moving to another country. It just doesn't add up... it seems like some kind of test.
In ANY case, yes I'm going to do what's right for me. Thanks for the reminder.
She moved here a year ago to follow him from that city. I think she wants to move back. I don't really believe she's moving to another country. It just doesn't add up... it seems like some kind of test.
In ANY case, yes I'm going to do what's right for me. Thanks for the reminder.
aussiegoat55
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Well, if there are better job options, opportunities to advance your life, or whatever in a big city with what it will have to offer, go for it, do it for yourself.
Yeah, the girl should just be an extra benefit to moving to the city.
Yeah, the girl should just be an extra benefit to moving to the city.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.