"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Me and my girlfriend have been going for over a year and a half now. This is really my first ever relationship. I am 21 years old and she is 20 years old. We currently go to the same college west of Atlanta. Ever since the first few months of the relationship we both felt as if we were made for eachother. We would talk about marriage and kids all the time then. We still do to this day even though that is no where near as much as we used to talk about. We also have been arguing alot these past weeks even though that we our at our respective houses because of Christmas break. Next week we will go back to our apartment at our school.

I am currently a Senior at college and I plan to graduate next December with a Bachelor's in Accounting. I am focused on graduating with a 3.5 and finding an internship to go to while I get my Masters after. My gf is transfering to UGA in May after this semester in college (She is a sophomore). When we talk about it all she talks about is how she can't wait to go to football games and how she wants to dance and all the other extra-curricular activities.

It just seems that things are falling apart. Because less in a month ago we were talking about how we want to finish school as soon as possible and move to a different state. Now it seems like her focus is just to have fun at a different school. What are your thoughts about all of this.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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PrettyBoyAJ said:
It just seems that things are falling apart. Because less in a month ago we were talking about how we want to finish school as soon as possible and move to a different state. Now it seems like her focus is just to have fun at a different school. What are your thoughts about all of this.
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Well this probably isn't what you want to hear, but it's the first thing that comes to mind:

You're 21. She's 20. You're both in college. I could see things ending between you two because you're young and have bright futures ahead of you. Why be tied to one person for life when you guys met shortly after your teen years? I was a different person at 21. And at 24. And now at 29. Hell, I'm not even 30 and I hate 21 year olds. You both are going to change so much in the coming years, how could you possibly commit to each other for life....you don't even know who you guys are going to become.

If you were living some uneducated small-town life, then yeah, people in that situation settle down at a young age because they have nothing else. You're both young and in college.

But okay if you want to keep her, I recommend backing off a bit. I think you're both TOO comfortable with each other, and maybe you need to make her understand that she's a PART of your life, but not the whole thing. (Which is probably hard since you both share an apartment for some silly reason.)

Anyway, my point is, begin displaying through hobbies, social activities, and just generally, not being around her all the time, that you have a life, and she is not your whole life. Maybe that'll break her (and you) out of the comfort zone. But overall, I think at your age you shouldn't be settling down anyway. It's unrealistic.
 
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Too fast too soon. Happened to me also.

She just wants to have fun.
She wants to be on her own.
She wants to "explore".
She wants other men.

Sorry...
 
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I can understand what you are saying with the comfortability factor. I am about my business. I could care less about going out with friends and doing stuff. I love to play basketball (That's the only exception). Other then playing basketball I really just like to be myself (I don't mind my GF around when I say I Want to be myself). I am trying to create a couple websites and trying to read a lot of books on bettering myself. I really would love a girl that could focus more on her future endeavors and schoolwork rather than having to impress people. I honestly believe that a big reason why we started dating was so she could show me off to her friends.
 
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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She hasn't woken up yet. Not answering the phone. I'll let you know as soon as I find out.
 
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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She phychologically ****ed up because she got pregnant before...

So she cant orgasm when shes having sex... she hunches pillows to have an orgasm.
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Dude, did you paste this in the wrong thread..?

Re your situation, just remember that your first is never your last. You think you were made for each other and are now drifting apart?...

....there are going to be many more chicks out there just like her.

Don't focus just on her, but get out there, see other chicks and live your own life as well.
 
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