Thoughts/Interpretations of what just happened

[bankai]

1 year ago:

- Bad break up with ex , I didn't communicate with her and ignored her attempts to connect with me. I moved on.

the last 3 weeks:

- she chased me , got together and had sex.

-She tells me she has a bf and doesn't want to break up, I tell her I don't want her to break up either. After sex she says "don't think we'll be doing this every time we hang out". She says she likes the way we've been communicating and doesn't want me to disappear and stop communicating with her.

- A couple of days later I ask her if she wants to hang out. She gives me a bs answer that feels like no.


I'm confused with what just happened

 

[AlexDP]

Ego boost. She's a cheating ***** by the way. What a nice person to know.

 

[jafyk]

This is just me guessing but it seems to me she might 1) have planned this out all along 2) something happened during your communication...so, let's go with #1. It could be a situation where her ego was hurt because you had been playing hard to get and when she finally caught she decided she'd get you back by making you think you've gotten her through sex and now that you want it again (now that she thinks she's got you hooked with the sex) she now uses her power to withdraw the sex from you, thereby getting her revenge. Going with situation #2 it could be that through your communication with her you've fallen into the LJBF zone. She knowing that you might try to have sex with her when you hangout is preventing any chance of that happening. The 3rd scenario could be that she used you to get back at her boyfriend (maybe they had a fight) and now that things have gone back to normal she doesn't want the sex thing between you guys to continue. She could also possibly be going back and forth with you both depending on what's going on.
The question for you is what were you expecting out of all this? If it's just a no strings attached sex relationship then it doesn't really matter why she's acting the way she's acting what you need to do is control your own desire (pull back) and let her come to you. Then generally do all those things you've been advised to do on this site. Things that increase interest level and attraction.

 

[bankai]

thanks for the responses.

So i felt myself going afc, decided I needed to regain control and pulled back, this involved me stopping communication for the day.

Interesting results I got a few different texts that went from happy "good morning!" to jokingly angry "fine! be that way and don't reply me!" to concern "where r u?...."

Any suggestions of what I may do next?

 

[CantTouchMyStyle]

thanks for the responses.

So i felt myself going afc, decided I needed to regain control and pulled back, this involved me stopping communication for the day.

Interesting results I got a few different texts that went from happy "good morning!" to jokingly angry "fine! be that way and don't reply me!" to concern "where r u?...."

Any suggestions of what I may do next?

Yeah, change your number.

OR

Tell her to go fvck herself & that chump she is "dating"

 

[mahoney]

she doesn't know what she wants - its fairly common in people

when you don't have something it seems better than it is
when you have something it turns out not to be so glittery after all

i had this when applying for jobs recently, one job seemed so good and there was such a long wait to hear back that i focussed mainly on the positives about it and really wanted it. i got offered another job almost immediately in the meantime but stalled on accepting because i wanted to hear back on the first one - because i knew i had it i focussed more on the negatives about it