"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

Read more...

Thought I'd share:

thederekeffect1

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 15, 2005
Messages
515
Reaction score
7
Age
41
Location
Duluth, MN
The following has nothing to do with my sex life, because well, my sex life is pretty much dead. Also, I've decided that I will not be handing out advice until I get my **** together and start growing some serious balls. I'm talking about contracting elephantiasis here, people. Anyway, this post has nothing to do with big balls. Not in that way, anyway.

Basically, here's a short conversation with an ex-girlfriend of mine. Well, not so much an ex-girlfriend as a FB without the "F". We were an on and off couple who didn't have sex because I respected her decision to wait since she was a virgin, okay? Long story short, I broke up with her about four months ago, because I was tired of being the guy that she kept running back to when she decided the other guys were a bunch of losers. It was either we stop beating around the bush and call this thing official or I wanted nothing to do with her... Even a **** would have been nice, christ. She was still unsure what she wanted, so I completely dropped her until recently.

Well, basically, here's a short clip from our conversation via Yahoo! IM.

Her: I don't get why you were ever attracted to me.
Me: Are we on that subject, again?
Her: No...
Me: Good
Her: *Sigh*
(She signs off)

Well, it's not getting me laid, but I think that was good.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

COD

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 19, 2006
Messages
1,197
Reaction score
30
Or Her Mommy Walked Into The Room
 

thederekeffect1

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 15, 2005
Messages
515
Reaction score
7
Age
41
Location
Duluth, MN
chinwaggler said:
sounds like she was upset and you made her more upset
Good. The point of this was not that I wanted to get her back, get f*cked or impress her. The point was that at one time, she would've said something like that and pulled me right back in, because I'd have assumed there was a chance for this to go somewhere other then makeout and ass grabbing sessions. Instead, I grew some balls and in so many words, told her no. We're not going down that route, again.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

Read more...

Scars

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jun 20, 2007
Messages
2,126
Reaction score
1,002
Age
36
Location
Phoenix
Avoid exgfs, they're bad news. There's a huge X infront of them for a reason.
 

chinwaggler

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jun 11, 2008
Messages
292
Reaction score
3
thederekeffect1 said:
Good. The point of this was not that I wanted to get her back, get f*cked or impress her. The point was that at one time, she would've said something like that and pulled me right back in, because I'd have assumed there was a chance for this to go somewhere other then makeout and ass grabbing sessions. Instead, I grew some balls and in so many words, told her no. We're not going down that route, again.
I see your point but she is still human. But yea I get what you mean.
 
Top