"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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thederekeffect1

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The following has nothing to do with my sex life, because well, my sex life is pretty much dead. Also, I've decided that I will not be handing out advice until I get my **** together and start growing some serious balls. I'm talking about contracting elephantiasis here, people. Anyway, this post has nothing to do with big balls. Not in that way, anyway.

Basically, here's a short conversation with an ex-girlfriend of mine. Well, not so much an ex-girlfriend as a FB without the "F". We were an on and off couple who didn't have sex because I respected her decision to wait since she was a virgin, okay? Long story short, I broke up with her about four months ago, because I was tired of being the guy that she kept running back to when she decided the other guys were a bunch of losers. It was either we stop beating around the bush and call this thing official or I wanted nothing to do with her... Even a **** would have been nice, christ. She was still unsure what she wanted, so I completely dropped her until recently.

Well, basically, here's a short clip from our conversation via Yahoo! IM.

Her: I don't get why you were ever attracted to me.
Me: Are we on that subject, again?
Her: No...
Me: Good
Her: *Sigh*
(She signs off)

Well, it's not getting me laid, but I think that was good.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Or Her Mommy Walked Into The Room
 

thederekeffect1

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chinwaggler said:
sounds like she was upset and you made her more upset
Good. The point of this was not that I wanted to get her back, get f*cked or impress her. The point was that at one time, she would've said something like that and pulled me right back in, because I'd have assumed there was a chance for this to go somewhere other then makeout and ass grabbing sessions. Instead, I grew some balls and in so many words, told her no. We're not going down that route, again.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Avoid exgfs, they're bad news. There's a huge X infront of them for a reason.
 

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thederekeffect1 said:
Good. The point of this was not that I wanted to get her back, get f*cked or impress her. The point was that at one time, she would've said something like that and pulled me right back in, because I'd have assumed there was a chance for this to go somewhere other then makeout and ass grabbing sessions. Instead, I grew some balls and in so many words, told her no. We're not going down that route, again.
I see your point but she is still human. But yea I get what you mean.
 
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