"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Thought I'd share my experience

Mickey D

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I'm kind of sad right now. The girl that I thought liked me (and I liked her) now has a BF. At first I wasn't to bummed bout it. However the next day I had a dream....I don't remember it to much, however I remember my self just holding her in my arms. Nothing sexual in anyway, more like a love type situation.

I thought she liked me cuz:

-Every time she looked at me in class....she'd smile at me, and turn to her friends and giggle

-When I was in the hospital, my friend would talk to her bout me, and when he'd mention my name, she'd act all "allert" all of a sudden

-When I asked her to Home coming....she got REALLY red, from her face to her hands.

Maybe these are all kiddy gestures, however I really felt she liked me, there was something going on.


At first I thought I was in love, but then I realize....I'm in high school, hs'ers don't ever fall in love. And then I tested my self. I relized I was looking at another girl who I thought was pretty. Then I started getting the feeling "Geez it would be nice ****ing her"

So then I realize....I'm not in love....however I really do care about this girl, I care about her A LOT. But now she has a boyfriend, never talks to me (she used to initiate convo. now I have to), I thought she liked me.....but now I reailze that She doesn't. Geez I'm depressed, I can't believe I'm so naive to think that I was in love.

Jesus....when I think about the times that she looked at me, and smiled at me.....It almost makes me want to cry. If I weren't hospitalized....I could have built my relation ship with her. She'll never know how I feel, and she doesn't even really know me....we've never hung out ever. And now, my chances with her are gone. Can you guys offer any advice?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Vincent

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Originally posted by Mickey D
Can you guys offer any advice?
Move on. You missed your chance. Sorry pal.
 

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Re: Re: Thought I'd share my experience

Originally posted by Vincent
Move on. You missed your chance. Sorry pal.
And yes, high schoolers can love too :)
 

LikRetsam

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Ofcourse not! High schoolers are incapable of love! It's obviously an age thing that only kicks in at some point after puberty.

Wonderful story by the way. Theories all over the place... fantasies... Not one piece of fact.

How the hell are you coming to your conclusions? You're only coming to them because those are the stories you want to believe. There was nothing.
 

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You'll need to move on. I found out a girl that I liked didn't like me back, and I was like "meh". You'll just need to get on with your life...
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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ask them out when you have a chance and if u dont get them MOVE ON, trust me, i had to learn this the mofo hard way
 

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Can you answer a few questions?

Did she get her boyfriend WHILE you were hospitalized?

Did she go with you to homecomming? Besides the fact that she blushed....

My advice to you is to go after the girl that you thought, "Geez it would be nice ****ing her".
 
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