"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Those twitchy moments... Asking for advice

jpizzler

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Fellows, advice would be appreciated. I've a date penciled in soon, recovering from a oneitis that had turned me into rubble. Rehabilitation is slow but sure, but it seems as if I've lost the sense of letting nature take its course.

How does one initiate those swift and sly brushes on the arm, feeling the hand and subtle skimming on the shoulder? Which lines would queue such an action from your behalf? The ones that give her a sample of your gentle touch, necessary for your feminine conquests?

I can only imagine that this task would seem obvious eventually, and subtlety would be lost. It'd be a pity if I end up feeling up her elbow for a good hour before scaring her off.

Thanks lads.
 

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When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

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jpizzler

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Yeah it's a first date, just to the movies and a casual dinner. The girl's one of the sweeter ones, with very little experience (she's never been in a relationship). I'd even call her a prude, but we don't know that yet...

I was far too used to playing 'spank-tag' with the oneitis subject, that's about the only 'non-intrusive' contact that we had. So you can see where I've worn down on.
 

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Well i heard that the first dates or so should have some action. The date is supposed to be fun for her so that you leave her thinking positive about you which will in turn increase interest level. They say stay away from dates like dinners especially if you find you arent a good conversationalist or a newbie to the game.
 

jpizzler

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I'm fine with conversation actually. I can keep one going, and besides, they do most of the talking so long as I keep going with open-ended questions. But it's just that. There's talk, plenty of it, but when should the quick bursts of physical contact occur in between? Perhaps I really should just trust my intuition to when, and what to do and let her make the first move.
 
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