"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Those of you who wear glasses - do any of you look *better* with them, than without?

The_Reaper

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I used to normally wear contacts, but I think I look better with glasses. I bought a pretty cool pair a few weeks ago (not in the slightest bit nerdy) which just suit my features very well, I've gotten a lot of compliments about them. I'm pretty sure I look worse with just the contact lenses.

So, do any of you have thoughts on this? Do girls instantly think "beta provider" when they see a guy with glasses?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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The_Reaper said:
So, do any of you have thoughts on this? Do girls instantly think "beta provider" when they see a guy with glasses?
the real question is...
"are you going to stop wearing these new glasses, even if they think your a beta provider from your glasses?"

Show them with your actions just exactly who you are.
 

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The_Reaper said:
So, do any of you have thoughts on this? Do girls instantly think "beta provider" when they see a guy with glasses?
Beta provider?
Since when is beta provider associated with glasses? Just because Clark Kent wore glasses and Superman didn't, it doesn't mean that there's a label associated with glasses.

I wear glasses, and I usually get the:

- Sophisticated and intelligent with glasses
.vs.
- Mean looking and intimidating without glasses

Either way, it doesn't matter, I'm the same person with or without glasses and that's what women get to know. There is no Clark Kent and Superman for me, I'm Superman all the way, all the time.

If you keep a mindset of "With glasses I'm a dork", then that's what you shall be and what other people will think of you. Personally, I like having my glasses on more than I like having them off. For some reason, people seem to take me a little more seriously when I have them on.

Now if only I could remember to stop taking off my glasses and leaving them on top of the bed... I'd be golden.
 

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Kailex said:
Beta provider?
Since when is beta provider associated with glasses? Just because Clark Kent wore glasses and Superman didn't, it doesn't mean that there's a label associated with glasses.

I wear glasses, and I usually get the:

- Sophisticated and intelligent with glasses
.vs.
- Mean looking and intimidating without glasses

Either way, it doesn't matter, I'm the same person with or without glasses and that's what women get to know. There is no Clark Kent and Superman for me, I'm Superman all the way, all the time.

If you keep a mindset of "With glasses I'm a dork", then that's what you shall be and what other people will think of you. Personally, I like having my glasses on more than I like having them off. For some reason, people seem to take me a little more seriously when I have them on.

Now if only I could remember to stop taking off my glasses and leaving them on top of the bed... I'd be golden.
QFT!

For real though, if you think you look like a geek who finished from Georgia Tech, women will perceive the same sh*t!

Color contacts can be great. I put on some hazel ones (ran me 20 bucks BTW) and I got a lot of comments on them, even had a couple girls want to hook up! I looked like a totally different person. I walked around like I was a male model with the prettiest eyes. It worked cuz I had contacts on.
 

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I recently starting wearing glasses and contacts for the first time, and I've gotten some pretty good compliments from females. I only wear them when I'm too lazy to deal with my contacts.

BTW, Dont be surprised if a girl nexts you when she finds out you're wearing color contacts. I saw a dating show on TV a long time ago, where three girls all liked this guy cuz he had pretty eyes. When he told them they were non prescription contacts they got turned off. They found it very unmanly to color your eyes.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Kailex said:
I wear glasses, and I usually get the:

- Sophisticated and intelligent with glasses
.vs.
- Mean looking and intimidating without glasses

as a black man, I agree ;)
 

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I had laser operation on both eyes, and I think things went better for me. However, that was not the reason I had laser eye surgery. My vision was so poor it wasn't funny.
 

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I saw a dating show on TV a long time ago, where three girls all liked this guy cuz he had pretty eyes. When he told them they were non prescription contacts they got turned off. They found it very unmanly to color your eyes.
It does sound pretty feminine.
 

pinhas

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I wear glasses and I love them; got many compliments and attention because of them. Girls like to come up to me in clubs and bars and either tell me I have cool glasses or even come up to me, take them off and try them on. My vision isn’t too bad and I can see ok without them, but since I got my new ones I wear them all the time.

Funny thing is that my Ex got me the glasses and I get a lot of female attention due to them...got to love the irony.

These are the ones I wear:
http://www.awesomeeyeglasses.com/me.../salt-optics-eyeglasses-adler-black-ice_2.jpg
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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