crowolf
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Weeks ago I met this girl on the street. She is 19 years old. Towards the end of our conversation I told her to add me on IG. I still haven't accepted her request, nor have I followed her because she has no posts. We just use it for chatting.
But here is the thing. It turned out that she has a boyfriend. She has been in this relationship for 5 years. I even noticed it on her phone wallpaper when she was adding me on IG. Then she mentioned this in our chat. And she said that her boyfriend wasn't the type of guy to tell her not to go out and meet new people or even talk to guys. Whatever that means.
After a bit of chatting I offered her to meet again. She said she can meet before 14h because after that she is with her boyfriend. Sure. Our "first date" was during my lunch break. It went okay.
A few days later she texts me again. A few messages in she said that the next time we meet she will be available even after 18 h. Looks like a green flag for a more romantic date setting than a lunchtime date.
We met around 20 h. Got into a cozy bar lounge, drank a glass of wine. Things were getting more physical. Basically everything but not a kiss. And no hand holding in public (I don't do it because she has a boyfriend). She was ready for a kiss on at least 3 occasions, but I didn't do it (again).
Soon she is going on a family vacation. The night before that I text her that I want to see her before she leaves because I was passing nearby her home. It was late, past 23 h. (11 pm). I asked her if her parents will notice if she leaves the place (would be a nice adventure). She said she won't, and that she is not at this place currently.
Okay, so we are going to meet in a week then. Here the time comes. We had some brief chats in-between. Then it was silence for about 3 days. And she texts me again. I tell her we can meet Wednesday or Thursday. And we met. Yesterday.
Keep in mind she is more emotionally invested than I am, is almost always replying on the minute, and has probably 100% compliance. She is very feminine, innocent, somewhat naive, has a bit of a spoiled princess behavior though, and is quite unexperienced towards life stuff (introvert, no smoking, no drinking, no job, no clubbing, not posting photos of herself online, etc.).
Yesterday we spent about 3 hours together. Multiple venues, walking, sitting at different places. The date wasn't so much different from the last one in terms of activities and progress on the seduction side of things. But perhaps she opened up even more and got more comfortable in my presence. I still touch her freely, and she is receptive to it. At one point I picked her up. Then she started looking around, maybe to see if someone saw her.
This time I bought myself a small bottle of Soju (korean alchohol beverage) to help me loosen up and not be afraid to kiss her. But at the point where this was supposed to happen it looked like she wasn't really ready, and her phone screen wallpaper distracted me from doing it. So this time I know it wasn't fear that stopped me but rather the silliness of waiting for the perfect moment, and the thing about her having a boyfriend.
She actually never mentions her boyfriend anymore. At one point during the beginning she did in the chat, but after that - not a single word about it. Smart move.
So if you ask me what do I want from this girl, I can't even reply to you clearly. If she cheats with me on him, I don't think going into a relationship with her is a good idea. Ethically, I rationalized this whole thing this way: if she is tired of this guy, and wants something new, she will find it - and if that's not me, it would be someone else.
Now, I don't know what exactly is the reason she is not satisfied with her guy. But to me it looks like she wants some adventure and passion.
What's your read on this situation? What would you do from now on?
But here is the thing. It turned out that she has a boyfriend. She has been in this relationship for 5 years. I even noticed it on her phone wallpaper when she was adding me on IG. Then she mentioned this in our chat. And she said that her boyfriend wasn't the type of guy to tell her not to go out and meet new people or even talk to guys. Whatever that means.
After a bit of chatting I offered her to meet again. She said she can meet before 14h because after that she is with her boyfriend. Sure. Our "first date" was during my lunch break. It went okay.
A few days later she texts me again. A few messages in she said that the next time we meet she will be available even after 18 h. Looks like a green flag for a more romantic date setting than a lunchtime date.
We met around 20 h. Got into a cozy bar lounge, drank a glass of wine. Things were getting more physical. Basically everything but not a kiss. And no hand holding in public (I don't do it because she has a boyfriend). She was ready for a kiss on at least 3 occasions, but I didn't do it (again).
Soon she is going on a family vacation. The night before that I text her that I want to see her before she leaves because I was passing nearby her home. It was late, past 23 h. (11 pm). I asked her if her parents will notice if she leaves the place (would be a nice adventure). She said she won't, and that she is not at this place currently.
Okay, so we are going to meet in a week then. Here the time comes. We had some brief chats in-between. Then it was silence for about 3 days. And she texts me again. I tell her we can meet Wednesday or Thursday. And we met. Yesterday.
Keep in mind she is more emotionally invested than I am, is almost always replying on the minute, and has probably 100% compliance. She is very feminine, innocent, somewhat naive, has a bit of a spoiled princess behavior though, and is quite unexperienced towards life stuff (introvert, no smoking, no drinking, no job, no clubbing, not posting photos of herself online, etc.).
Yesterday we spent about 3 hours together. Multiple venues, walking, sitting at different places. The date wasn't so much different from the last one in terms of activities and progress on the seduction side of things. But perhaps she opened up even more and got more comfortable in my presence. I still touch her freely, and she is receptive to it. At one point I picked her up. Then she started looking around, maybe to see if someone saw her.
This time I bought myself a small bottle of Soju (korean alchohol beverage) to help me loosen up and not be afraid to kiss her. But at the point where this was supposed to happen it looked like she wasn't really ready, and her phone screen wallpaper distracted me from doing it. So this time I know it wasn't fear that stopped me but rather the silliness of waiting for the perfect moment, and the thing about her having a boyfriend.
She actually never mentions her boyfriend anymore. At one point during the beginning she did in the chat, but after that - not a single word about it. Smart move.
So if you ask me what do I want from this girl, I can't even reply to you clearly. If she cheats with me on him, I don't think going into a relationship with her is a good idea. Ethically, I rationalized this whole thing this way: if she is tired of this guy, and wants something new, she will find it - and if that's not me, it would be someone else.
Now, I don't know what exactly is the reason she is not satisfied with her guy. But to me it looks like she wants some adventure and passion.
What's your read on this situation? What would you do from now on?
