MatureDJ
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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Second time today, actually. Here's the first:PairPlusRoyalFlush said:How many times have you made this anal retentive know-nothing comment in the last few weeks? give it a rest.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showpost.php?p=2072051&postcount=5Zarky said:Because all men are the same and want the same exact things as every other man, all the time!
( . )( . ) said:What's that like the 5th time you've said the same thing? You's are not unique snowflakes either sweetheart.
Zarky, you don't use game successfully (or in your case pretend to use game) and come out of it thinking "Gee they're all so different". One or the other woman, one or the other. Your a dandy playa who "get's it" or your bamboozled by it all at how complex and unique they all are. Get your stories sorted out.
I gotta say that's gotta be one the funniest FAILS I've ever seen.MatureDJ said:
Wise words.samspade said:If you had to bet your life on something, you'll bet on the generalization, not the exception.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.