MatureDJ
Master Don Juan
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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Second time today, actually. Here's the first:PairPlusRoyalFlush said:How many times have you made this anal retentive know-nothing comment in the last few weeks? give it a rest.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showpost.php?p=2072051&postcount=5Zarky said:Because all men are the same and want the same exact things as every other man, all the time!
( . )( . ) said:What's that like the 5th time you've said the same thing? You's are not unique snowflakes either sweetheart.
Zarky, you don't use game successfully (or in your case pretend to use game) and come out of it thinking "Gee they're all so different". One or the other woman, one or the other. Your a dandy playa who "get's it" or your bamboozled by it all at how complex and unique they all are. Get your stories sorted out.
I gotta say that's gotta be one the funniest FAILS I've ever seen.MatureDJ said:
Wise words.samspade said:If you had to bet your life on something, you'll bet on the generalization, not the exception.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.