DJ_in_making
Master Don Juan
wow, it makes you literally sick? I'm sorry to hear that.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
This sh!t literally makes me sick...
- Thread starter squirrels
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
One on One
Master Don Juan
Take a break from the forums, guys...I took six months off. It gives you a new perspective and now that I'm back it's not so self-destructive like it used to.
Caldus
Senior Don Juan
That's news to me. I have to have friends before I would have a girlfriend? That sounds ridiculous to me. I look for friends too but sometimes it just takes a long time for some people (like me) to find other people that connect with them well if you know what I mean.Originally posted by Hellboy
Good for you Friv, I saw your thread. Me and Sous are like horny little animals
Caldus, don't 'try to open up to them more', just concentrate more on having a good time with them. If they have a good time with you, they will want to spend more time with you.
Cold approaches are fine if that's what you wanna do, but don't expect a girl to take you seriously for long if you don't have friends. Friends are essential if you want to hold onto a hot woman for any period of time. The cooler your friends are the better. And they must respect you, because she will pay close attention to this. If you find you're having trouble with making friends you actually want to hang out with, then maybe you should brush up on your social skills a little, or just relax more.
Maybe girls aren't "that" important. Maybe being a man who bags numerous ladies in a month isn't "that" important. Maybe getting a girl to sleep with you isn't "that" important. If you make bedding women a passion in your life, but you aren't really that good with them, I'm sure you'll feel very lousy about it.
The problem lies with wanting to fvck all these girls that you put your moves on. If you just want to get to know them, it ain't such a big deal because there are many girls that you can get to know very easily. It's not like they're in short supply. But when you start wanting to be good at getting to fvck them, it becomes like a mission. A mission in which you would hate to fail in.
Whether a girl decides to just be friends or whether they decide they want to fvck me, I am really not bothered. Either way is perfectly fine by me. Women make great friends too. Although they can be petty and annoying, friends are there to occupy my time. Just like hobbies. It may seem like I don't cherish them but I never disrespect them, otherwise I should get comfortable with being alone.
The problem lies with wanting to fvck all these girls that you put your moves on. If you just want to get to know them, it ain't such a big deal because there are many girls that you can get to know very easily. It's not like they're in short supply. But when you start wanting to be good at getting to fvck them, it becomes like a mission. A mission in which you would hate to fail in.
Whether a girl decides to just be friends or whether they decide they want to fvck me, I am really not bothered. Either way is perfectly fine by me. Women make great friends too. Although they can be petty and annoying, friends are there to occupy my time. Just like hobbies. It may seem like I don't cherish them but I never disrespect them, otherwise I should get comfortable with being alone.
Caldus
Senior Don Juan
So if you have no friends or girlfriend, then you gotta start somewhere. And that would mean cold approaches. That's my situation.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Mojo604
Senior Don Juan
nmOriginally posted by squirrels
This forum, the dating "game", "clubbin' ", online hook-up sites, having to regard every girl as potential "prey", sex, dating...the whole 9 yards.
I'm just tired of it. It's almost become a hassle to even think about women.
I'mma stop thinking about it (or try at least). Honestly, it wasnt' meant to be this much work, if it was, people wouldn't do it.
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