"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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At least I think so.


So here's my situation:

I'm in law school right now. I was invited to attend a dinner hosted by a major firm in the city. Every year they invite a few law students to a free supper so they can see if they want to hire them.

I will be there with a few of my colleagues from school. Obviously I want to impress my future employers.

The supper will be held at a fancier restaurant. It will be a mix of men and women lawyers.

What are some tips from the SS members?

Thanks in advance
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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GeorgeStrom said:
What are some tips from the SS members?

Thanks in advance
Be "pin striped" every which way.
THis is a job interview, no less.

Think James Bond without the women and the C&F.
 

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and put age into your profile .. ;)
 

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Smile. Smell good. Relax. Talk to everyone. Have a drink or two. Have fun. Show them that you're the kind of guy they will want to be around every day if they hire you. Stay professional though. Maybe get a phone number from a girl (not one in your party). That will impress the men.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Find out what they are looking for , i.e. "their ideal employee" even ask them this. I've done this several times in interviews.

Then future pace yourself into that role... Provide examples later on in the conversation that show you can provide that type of service to their firm.
 

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Find everything you know about that particular firm.

Make sure you know your sh1t.

Don't brag.

Don't talk too much.

Be humble.

Act enthusiastic and passionate about law but be careful not to kiss ass.

Avoid topics like politics or religion, your opinions could rub someone the wrong way.

Networking - try to get important contacts.

Do something that makes you stand out in a positive way from the rest of the students (A head above everyone else).

Remember that it is your job to sell yourself without looking like you are really trying too.
 

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TheSplat said:
Smile. Smell good. Relax. Talk to everyone. Have a drink or two. Have fun. Show them that you're the kind of guy they will want to be around every day if they hire you. Stay professional though. Maybe get a phone number from a girl (not one in your party). That will impress the men.
This guy's on track, although I'm not exactly sure I'd try to pick up a girl. Remember, this is a job interview. The most important thing is to make sure everyone likes you--people hire people they like.

If you can, try to find out what type of people they hire. For example, in the accounting industry, the now-defunct Arthur Anderson had a pretty strict type of person they were looking for--very professional, hard working, good grades. However, Price-Waterhouse-Coopers look for more laid-back people that can get along anywhere; their recruiting process on campus involved barcrawls and drinking games. In my year, PwC hired my roommate, who was really outgoing and even has a dance minor, and the quarterback to the football team.

By far (and this goes for more than just job interviews), the most important thing is to be able to read people. If they want to stay professional and ask job/school questions, go that route. If they want to talk about what your weekend was like, try to get a feel for what type of stuff they do, and see if you can find a similar interest to talk about. I usually find out what type of music they listen to and go from there, since I'm a musician myself and will be able to talk.

Let us know how it goes!
 

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Thanks for the advice everyone, I'll put it to work!

I won't just be focused (purely) on impressing or getting the job.

I will definitely portray myself as someone that they would like to hang around with everyday at the workplace.
 

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If possible, contact your career services office and get in contact with someone from your law school who is a recent graduate and with the firm. If you can contact that person, they should be able to tell you what firm life is like for the associates and what qualities the partners are looking for. Tailor your behavior accordingly.

Do your homework on the firm yourself -- read up on them. Know their practice areas, office locations, and billables requirement.

Also, don't be the first person to "talk shop" (i.e. about law, law school, lawyering, etc.) at the table. It'll make you look uninteresting and boring.

Oh yeah -- and bring CASH with you to the event. If it's a really nice place, you'll want to have money to tip bartenders (if there are drinks before dinner), valets, coat check people, etc. Doing so will make you look professional and attentive to detail. Even if the firm takes care of all that, you never know when you're going to be in a situation where you'll need a couple bucks and you don't want to look unprepared with only a credit card / debit card in your wallet.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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#41 said:
If possible, contact your career services office and get in contact with someone from your law school who is a recent graduate and with the firm. If you can contact that person, they should be able to tell you what firm life is like for the associates and what qualities the partners are looking for. Tailor your behavior accordingly.

Do your homework on the firm yourself -- read up on them. Know their practice areas, office locations, and billables requirement.

Also, don't be the first person to "talk shop" (i.e. about law, law school, lawyering, etc.) at the table. It'll make you look uninteresting and boring.

Oh yeah -- and bring CASH with you to the event. If it's a really nice place, you'll want to have money to tip bartenders (if there are drinks before dinner), valets, coat check people, etc. Doing so will make you look professional and attentive to detail. Even if the firm takes care of all that, you never know when you're going to be in a situation where you'll need a couple bucks and you don't want to look unprepared with only a credit card / debit card in your wallet.

Thanks a lot buddy..

Yeah, will give me a good excuse to hit up a girl I know who works at the firm, maybe make a friend or two...

and true enough about the tips. I'm usually only going around with my credit card...I'll make note to bring some cashola
 
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