"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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this past weekend

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So last weekend with an AFC friend of mines. On friday he picked me up to go hang out with some girls he knew in another town. So we drive to the movie theater and we find em, get acquainted and then go in to the theater. I sit next to the girl I want. Throughout the movie I'm busting on her with some C&F and I was getting some good responses. I started discussing with her about relationships, and little bit of sexual side of things but only in fluff talk. Because we were watching Amytiville Horror she was jumpy and sh*t and after a while I told her to grab my hand and she did. We held hands for the rest of the movie and then we brainstormed about what to do and we drove around for a second and then they invited me and my friend to their house and my "girl's" parents let us take them out for a little longer and so we go to the bowling alley for a little and bust on her and KINO her but not too much. Overall the night went good and they wanted to hang out the following night. Sh*t sounded promising huh?........

Saturday(not as long I. promise)
We meet them at the drive in theater and they are in their car and unfortunately a parent was with them. Anyhow they invite us to their car and we're chillin sorta but this time the vibe was totally different. I have some kind of gift of intuition or knowing if I'm not wanted. Well we're like in the back of the car so they could lay in it. The girls laid in it and my friend got in and I was left hanging sitting at the end of the back all uncomfortably and I'm saying hi and stuff to them and trying to convo with the girl but it was weird and different. I decided to go to my car and watch the movie. After the 1st movie ended I drove my car next to theirs and with persuasion from my friend they got in my car but my designated **** sat in the back with my friend and her friend...After 15 minutes of being left out in the cold I told her to come sit with me and she refused! I asked why and she said she was tired and she just wanted to chill. I busted on her some more but she was being a dumb b*tch. I didn't insist on her getting with me any further but I tried to keep my cool because of my friend's tendency to be an immature pervert with girls annoys me. he starts talking to them about the stupidest sh*t you could ever hear. After a while I felt like I was gradually lowering my IQ and remembered why I havent hung out with this guy in 3 years.

I went home broke, sexless and full of shame for hanging out with this loser.

Oh and when i get to f*ggots house he tells me that the girls didn't want me to go to the drive in with him. WHY THE HELL DID HE NOT TELL ME THIS EARLIER!!!!??? I still ponder why this girl got cold though.

The lesson I learned is that when it comes to girls YOU MUST ALWAYS STAY ON YOUR TOES and YOU GOTTA EXPECT THE WORST OUT OF GIRLS EVEN WHEN YOU ARE ON TOP OF YOUR GAME AND THE MOJO IS ROLLIN' BECAUSE ITS THE WAY THEY ARE PERIOD. If you do this, the BS females bring upon you won't be taken so personally. But you always have to know when to stop the BS and go home.

Definately one of the ****tier weekends I've had in recent memory and I'll never sarge with that dumb ass guy ever again..P.S.: they told me that their real ages were 14 and 15 and I'm 18 and that ain't cool.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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WOW. That really sucks.
Oh well. Everyone has their bad days. Its not your fault. If that girl had treated you like she did the other day, it would of been way different.
I know the feeling though. You want to be with a chick. But the "vibe" is all wrong. Nothing you can do about it.
Forget them and move on. Chicks like that aren't worth your time.
 

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ok, so you went to a "scary" movie and the whole time you were talking to her about "sexual fluff". You may have just come on to strong and she was responding hoping she wouldnt hurt your feelings...You might think this is bull****, but i do this to girls that i dont want to get with, all the time.

Your "friend" obivously is not comfortable around girls by himself, otherwise he would have told you not to come with him. Unless, you called him up asking when the date was? but i doubt you did that.

Im not trying to roast on you Darrel, but im just trying let you see it from another angle, i might have just misconstrude how the nght's events fell through

But my take on it, is that its just a big case of overestimation, I have done it many many times, and you just learn from the past.

I just cant get over the fact that they had a parent with them! :crazy: overprotective, anyone?
 

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Originally posted by ohiofutballa
overprotective, anyone?
sounds like it to me...you made a pretty valid point on the rest of it. you may have came on too strong in the beginning and she was just playing along.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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but I didn't even talk about sex directly. She kinda brough it up first. And the next night at the drive in she broke the record for being the prude with the most knowledge about sexual positions...hmmm.
 
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