"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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This ought to make you guys laugh

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I understand some of you don't like my posts on here. But I figured this will give you guys a laugh. Remember how I mentioned my girlfriend has some shady online behavior? Friended random local dudes she never met, likes their pics (to this day), re-adds old friends, old flames, and an old boyfriend. Etc. Etc.

You all know from my previous posts that we met a few weeks after a bad boy that she was infauted with, screwed her over. Well just the other night, that VERY SAME bad boy followed her on Instagram, it's now been just shy of a year since he played her. He just followed her on instagram and then she followed him back. Just thought that would give you guys a nice laugh. And no, I don't know what I'm going to do yet. Just very shady to me. Can't tell if curiosity or if it's mixed feelings on her part.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I understand some of you don't like my posts on here. But I figured this will give you guys a laugh. Remember how I mentioned my girlfriend has some shady online behavior? Friended random local dudes she never met, likes their pics (to this day), re-adds old friends, old flames, and an old boyfriend. Etc. Etc.

You all know from my previous posts that we met a few weeks after a bad boy that she was infauted with, screwed her over. Well just the other night, that VERY SAME bad boy followed her on Instagram, it's now been just shy of a year since he played her. He just followed her on instagram and then she followed him back. Just thought that would give you guys a nice laugh. And no, I don't know what I'm going to do yet. Just very shady to me. Can't tell if curiosity or if it's mixed feelings on her part.
Don't know if i should laugh or cry
 

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Girls crave external validation. She may care for you but not enough to cut that validation from other sources. You have a couple of choices, either don't let it bother you if she's still banging you; or, you can make a big deal out of it and see if she's willing to stop the behavior. I'd shoot for the former unless she truly seems to have a foot out the door. The latter option won't really go well for you unless you're opting to end the relationship.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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He just followed her on instagram and then she followed him back. Just thought that would give you guys a nice laugh.
I don't find it funny. I find it pathetic that you're still with her.

Let's look at your last thread for fun...

Can I ask what about my girlfriend triggers you so hard? Does she remind you of a girl from your past? She definitely has had some questionable behavior, but it seems to hit home for you
Still triggered over here...

She's charming and sexy, and there's just something intangible about her that drew me in.
I'll bet it's even more charming and sexy when she's following the ex that she loves way more than you.

I'm still confused as to why you haven't kicked this piece of garbage to the curb.
 

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I don't find it funny. I find it pathetic that you're still with her.

Let's look at your last thread for fun...



Still triggered over here...



I'll bet it's even more charming and sexy when she's following the ex that she loves way more than you.

I'm still confused as to why you haven't kicked this piece of garbage to the curb.
Really? I agree with Randall, I find it hilarious
 

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I understand some of you don't like my posts on here. But I figured this will give you guys a laugh. Remember how I mentioned my girlfriend has some shady online behavior? Friended random local dudes she never met, likes their pics (to this day), re-adds old friends, old flames, and an old boyfriend. Etc. Etc.

You all know from my previous posts that we met a few weeks after a bad boy that she was infauted with, screwed her over. Well just the other night, that VERY SAME bad boy followed her on Instagram, it's now been just shy of a year since he played her. He just followed her on instagram and then she followed him back. Just thought that would give you guys a nice laugh. And no, I don't know what I'm going to do yet. Just very shady to me. Can't tell if curiosity or if it's mixed feelings on her part.
This man is a masochist. Have some dignity and self-respect and dump this chick.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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This man is a masochist. Have some dignity and self-respect and dump this chick.
I know Randall is probably going to come back and say "but why should I dump her over following people on social media?"

First off, look at it this way. If she even gives a chit about you (my opinion is she's using you to fill a void, but unfortunately now she's allowing her kid to bond with your kid,) but if she really even gives a chit about you, how do you think she would feel if YOU started rounding up/re-adding old flames and old girlfriends? It's okay for her to do it but not you? My opinion is, if she cares about you then that wouldn't make her happy. Would make her suspicious at the very least.
 

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Girls crave external validation. She may care for you but not enough to cut that validation from other sources. You have a couple of choices, either don't let it bother you if she's still banging you; or, you can make a big deal out of it and see if she's willing to stop the behavior. I'd shoot for the former unless she truly seems to have a foot out the door. The latter option won't really go well for you unless you're opting to end the relationship.
This is a response I can level with
 

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This is a response I can level with
Of course it Is, he's about the only person who isn't outright telling you that what she is doing is shady af and shows some real psychological problems with herself-- adding/readding all these dudes. And also, probably a lack of interest in you on her part. Maybe she is into you, I don't know. Probably not, judging by what you've said she's done to you and said to you in the past. Likely using you to fill a void. She either loves you but you're not enough for her, or she doesn't really love you so she's getting her validation fix by guys who she actually finds attractive. Pick your poison.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Cut the sh!t dude, this is the same thread as you've posted previously!

1. You keep on posting about this womans actions, it clearly affects you on some level.

2. Given all the information provided, you should kick her a$$ to the kerb. The advice provided by many posters is spot on, the woman is trash!

3. Despite the solid advice, your clearly still entertaining this woman.

Summary: Your either a troll or you are so blinded by your 'love' for this woman you can't see the facts. Your relationship does not end well!
 

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Cut the sh!t dude, this is the same thread as you've posted previously!

1. You keep on posting about this womans actions, it clearly affects you on some level.

2. Given all the information provided, you should kick her a$$ to the kerb. The advice provided by many posters is spot on, the woman is trash!

3. Despite the solid advice, your clearly still entertaining this woman.

Summary: Your either a troll or you are so blinded by your 'love' for this woman you can't see the facts. Your relationship does not end well!
In Randalls defense-- this isn't the same thread as before. In this thread, the latest development is that the same bad boy who she drooled over a year ago and who screwed her over, has just recently followed her on social media out of the blue, and she followed him back (lol)

I dont think he's a troll. I think he is so in love with this woman that he's blinded to the facts. I think he's hoping that we'll tell him there's nothing to worry about.

Look, I've heard of women who have hoe'd around in their youth and settled down with the beta provider when they approach 30, but this woman clearly cannot keep her eyes off other men. She needs a constant fix of validation/attention. Not surprising since Randall basically said she has daddy issues and a dysfunctional upbringing. She's with Randall because she THINKS that's the kind of guy she SHOULD be with. Like many girls, they think there's only a-holes or nice guys. No in-between.

She just doesn't seem like the type who has left her hoeing behind her and is dead-set on settling for a beta. No way. Not only that, but she's psychologically unstable. My money is on this relationship ending at some point.
 

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Sounds more like you're indirectly asking what to do more than trying to give us a laugh.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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