"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Genos

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Gotta agree with OP here - by removing the side outlet for sexual release, you just get more and more motivated to improve your own game and skill with women.

I've gone without fapping for up to a month at one point, and there was a noticeable difference >_> Approach anxiety was a thing of the past, I was making strong eye contact with every girl who walked by that wasn't buried in their iphone, hot damn it's great - confidence abound.

Even if it's all in your head, it's worth a try to see how you feel if you go an extended duration without rubbing one out. If nothing else (though I'm sure it has other positive effects), it's a exercise in building willpower/self-control.
 

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It is a testament to willpower self control. I am on week 3....to be honest my little guy is still not moving.....I have had erections from dreams though and when I thought about a hot I was banging. But other then that my little guy is asleep. I noticed I had 3 wet dreams so far.....I use to be bad fapper. Like the guy in the movie don jon it was bad. Talking about 3-4 times a day for 15 years
 

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PeasantPlayer said:
It is a testament to willpower self control. I am on week 3....to be honest my little guy is still not moving.....I have had erections from dreams though and when I thought about a hot I was banging. But other then that my little guy is asleep. I noticed I had 3 wet dreams so far.....I use to be bad fapper. Like the guy in the movie don jon it was bad. Talking about 3-4 times a day for 15 years

Same boat. Constantly thinking about sex. Constantly thinking about slamming when I see a hot female.

Do you think it is beneficial to try the NO FAP? I am afraid ill be an amplified sex nut.....I had a scare recently with not being able to get hard because I over used my dik, and was exhausted...real embarrassing.

What about busting early? Do you guys experience that with the no fap? Does it help with staying harder longer?
 

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I'm going to keep going....little guy needs a rest I beat the hell out of him. I'm still getting erections from dreams so I know its not ED. And I can get myself hard more with my imagination then having porn do it for me. But other then that its dead lol
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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There is a book by David Deida called "The Way of the Superior Man", which draws on a lot of no fap. It is a really useful book. Edging can be useful on this challenge as it keeps the sphincter muscles in condition. Being on No fap can be described as one big orgasasm.
 

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I think since I stopped masturbating I am getting a lot of wet dreams, its been a little over a month...anyone else have this experience?
 

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PeasantPlayer said:
I think since I stopped masturbating I am getting a lot of wet dreams, its been a little over a month...anyone else have this experience?
Day 70. Did it twice before but only lasted 7 and 15 days. Prolly about 100 days without porn.
Yes Peasant player, in fact last month I cumed a few times in dreams, the first time around the 30 days, I think was a real big bust.
Realized how bad is to fap without cumming, the time I lasted 7 days it was because I was doing that and I felt my balls were hurting and I felt something on them, I was scared so I tried cumming it out.
I used to feel really hornier but now I´m just kind of not feeling any hungry about women, I agree with gaining strong eye contact and confidence with both men and women, but it´s as if my interest in women is lower than a month ago, I think i´m on what they call the flatline.
Anyway I still get hard easily while thinking about banging them, which I dind´t do before stopping porn.
 

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yea, peasant is clearly on flatline, it's not a challenge if ur not getting hard lol.
i just recently had the same case, it also happened for the first time in my life.. been a pretty bad fapped for years, but at some point my dude just stopped working as usual.. that flatline lasted for about a month, everything is back to old "normal." my girl is coming next week, but nothing will happen sex wise between us for a very long period so... back to old stuff, but taking it very easy and no porn at all
 

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I feel I am flatlining at Day 18, haven't had any nocturnals at all this time. Before that I went for a few weeks and busted a nut only occaissionally, once doing an exercise at the gym and another on my bike. Have been edging slightly from time to time, this time have been more disciplined. Most definetly helps me in the gym, as I feel I am using this to channel into my weight training, while I am using supplements like Pre-workouts and test-boosters etc, feel pretty confident that going on no-fap stretches helps with my fitness levels.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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