"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Ok guys, heres the deal!

Im a little, no, a LOT confused:confused:

When Im out... in the bar or the club... I have a hard time making eye contact with chicks. To be honest, I often feel a little bit invisible, like its my friends that get all the attention.

But recently Ive started seeing this chick and doing lots of stuff with her and her friends. Nothing special, and I get along with them ok I guess... if a little strained. So anyway. I'm talking to my girl the day after after a night in the club, and were talking about her friends, who Ive just recently met.

Because I feel a little, like I say... invisible... at times, I thought Id ask what her friends thiought of me. Im told that all her friends think "i'm very stunning", and later, that her best friend is "almost obsessed with me". :rolleyes:

Sorry! I missed that, WTF did you say??

SO Im confused. I asked why my friend gets more women and attention, and shes like "girls think youre too good for them. infact I thought you were really arrogant so ignored you."

What... the... F*CK... this is Mr Invisible here.

Other times Ive had other chicks, friends of friends and acquaintainces, just randomly come out with things like "youre extremely attractive" and associated comments like "you just love yourself dont you.. youre so arrogant"...

Listen up, this is MR INVISIBLE here. I walk around feeling inferior!!

Sorry to rant guys, but I cant explain this.

Is it my attitude?? Do I give off negative vibes?? Im outgoing and funny when you get to know me! Godamn women confuse me.

Your thoughts please... :confused:
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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"Is it my attitude?? Do I give off negative vibes?? Im outgoing and funny when you get to know me!"


The answer to your problem lies in what you just said.

-yes
-yes
-If you don't change those first two, what girl in her right mind will give enough of a fvck to get to know you?
 
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AH HA! There is a guy at my job that does the same thing! He won't make eye contact. He's very nice & she....but he comes across as an arrogant ass because he looks PAST you when he speaks to you. YOU think that HE thinks he's too good to look at you, but in all truth, he's just shy!

Eye contact! VERY important! Make EYE contact, SMILE and watch the chick flock to you!
 
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Soma,

Thanks for your reply. But I am friendly, I do smile, I do talk to people. I dont know why people call me arrogant. Maybe I dress too well. Its just bizarre that people can have a perception of me that in no way agrees with how I see myself.

I dont know whether to believe myself... or these girls...

thanks again
 
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It's probably the same reason that I seem to attract other guys' girlfriends...because YOU'RE NOT TRYING to nail your girlfriend's friends, so you don't display any of the apprehensive and standoffish behavior you display with potential "targets". ;)
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Squirrels...

youve given me an epiphany or something...

this gets at the looks/personality issue..

the two are tied up inextricably, we are a "package deal"...

the friends/those who speak with me see my FULL value as a person...

potential targets only see HALF...

excellent response as ever my man.:)
 
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No - because his GF friends are calling him arogant. So by definition he's obviously standofish towards them.
 
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Originally posted by squirrels
It's probably the same reason that I seem to attract other guys' girlfriends...
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Lol! It's nice to know someone else out there has the same problem as I do. :p
 
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