You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
When people generally say they don't do something, that usually means they are doing it. (lording it over others, not secretly banging).
My foreign wife wants me to f/ck her every night. Maybe you should look there.Desdinova said:
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
This is strange. I've heard of Christians abstaining during "courtship", but never during marriage. In fact, most Christians I know got married just so they could have sex with a clear conscience.Desdinova said:
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Well said. And agree 100% with this.Atom Smasher said:
Faith is just abandoning critical thinking and accepting strange claims without any evidence, right? How does one mock such a thing?
Extra funny here because even christians thought it was real. When you come up with 20 silly things every day before breakfast and claim they're literal fact, AND claim that belief in the absence of any proof is a good thing, it's pretty difficult to tell the wheat from the chaff.
It is a joke. I worked with a guy who is a hardcore Christian, AFC but a nice guy. Married the first woman he banged, had 5 kids and lives in an apartment. Last I heard his wife got bored and wanted to taste new c/ck, he got depressed and lost tons of weight, and has removed himself from facebook. No idea how it turned out other than I saw his wife put up sexy pics of herself on facebook, maybe he is dead now. I quit the job a long time ago and lost touch.Driggs said: