i was reading the paper out in public today when this cute little number walked by. i looked at her as she walked by and her eyes went right to the floor. she then stood next to me and started adjusting her shirt and messing with with her hair and throwing it around and ****. i thought that was out of place at first and done because she liked my look but was unsure because she wasn't looking at me or anything as she did it. she then turned to face me and when she saw me looking turned back around. i was like **** it and figured what the hell and asked some question to get her attention and then we talked. the conversation went well and she goes to my college. i didn't ask for the # because i thought it was too good to be true but she is on my facebook now. i guess i can always ask for that though.
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
this is what an interested chick does?
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- Start date
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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Ask her for her number, it seems like she was trying to gain your attention, which worked.
If this happens again with a different girl, get the digits after some small talk. Get the ball rolling as soon as possible; life is too short to waste time.
Best of luck mate.
If this happens again with a different girl, get the digits after some small talk. Get the ball rolling as soon as possible; life is too short to waste time.
Best of luck mate.
thank you. i had wanted to ask for her number but i am so used to rejection i thought i couldn't be true which is why got facebook instead. but today i was more confident then usual and i dressed well. i felt a different energy from women today.a lot of women were holding eye contact with me albeit they weren't smiling. i think it was because i also wasn't smiling. i was all business today had some stuff on my mind. i think the major problem with me is confidence i know i am not so bad but had a hard time in childhood and it carried over, thus my less then great confidence. i am trying to change things i think i'm a lot better than i used to be but still need to make some progress.
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Rejection is apart of life mate, it's not nice and no one likes rejection, but it happens and it is how you deal with it that measures what kind of person you are. Don't let women determine your self worth, you are better than that. If a girl rejects you, then do what I do, just chalk it up as "her loss" and move on.
Also, listen to your gut instinct, it's usually right.
Go get this girls digits and get the ball rolling.
Also, listen to your gut instinct, it's usually right.
Go get this girls digits and get the ball rolling.
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Read my sig. 'Nuff said. You'll be ready soon enough.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
yes i am just trying to get over the fact that it is possible, there are women that might like me. that's been a struggle up until now. i don't think i have much to fear in this case. i know what to do i think once i actually succeed it will flip some switch and this will become a whole lot easier. someimes i think i pass up opportunities because of hesitancy!!!nismo-4 said:
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This is the way I see things: ALL women like me unless proven otherwise. For the record, it's quite rare that I'm proven otherwise
Always go for the close. If you think things are too good to be true, then they will be. If you think that she needs to have a good time with a fantastic guy like yourself, then it will happen.
that's a good attitude to have. hope i can get to that point one day. i don't think i'm revolting but never had the confidence to think women could like me (i was alwas the one girls went eww but not because of my looks but more my akwardness. i had some women interested in me that i found out too late). so you think i am in the clear and things are good? i mean it was too good to be true in the sense it seemed like she was blatantly flirting with me,,not used to that but maybe it happens more often and i miss it. it happened after she looked at me and i don't she was fixing herself for some other guy or anything. felt she stood next to me so i could open her. i need to work on just risking it, aka going for the close as you say.Desdinova said:This is the way I see things: ALL women like me unless proven otherwise. For the record, it's quite rare that I'm proven otherwise
Always go for the close. If you think things are too good to be true, then they will be. If you think that she needs to have a good time with a fantastic guy like yourself, then it will happen.
so how i can i get to your level where you gets lots of women?
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Like Journey said in their song....
Don't stop believing.
As for "lots of women" it's a numbers game. If you want to be mathematical about it..................
*BORING MATHS WARNING*
Let's say in your eyes, your looks were average, e.g. your rating is a 6/10. Hypothetically, that can translate to a 6/10 chance of getting a girl. So if you approached 1 girl, that's 0.6 girls you have successfully got. If you approach 100 girls, you will be successful with 60 of them.
*END BORING MATHS WARNING*
The above was just an example, it ain't so simple. What it illustrates is that if you want lots of women, you have to approach more.
I used to be so caught up in the whole "Does she like me? How can I tell if she thinks I'm hot??" BS. I now realise, instead of trying to figure it out, and going through all the psychoanalysis, the surefire way of knowing whether she likes you or not is just GO FOR IT. Sure, you'll get rejected sometimes, but it's worth it for the success and the character building that comes in the long run.
Nismo-4's sig says it straight, "Strike while the iron's hot".
Now I know if a girl likes me straight away, because if my member is in her, there's a pretty good chance she likes me
Don't stop believing.
As for "lots of women" it's a numbers game. If you want to be mathematical about it..................
*BORING MATHS WARNING*
Let's say in your eyes, your looks were average, e.g. your rating is a 6/10. Hypothetically, that can translate to a 6/10 chance of getting a girl. So if you approached 1 girl, that's 0.6 girls you have successfully got. If you approach 100 girls, you will be successful with 60 of them.
*END BORING MATHS WARNING*
The above was just an example, it ain't so simple. What it illustrates is that if you want lots of women, you have to approach more.
I used to be so caught up in the whole "Does she like me? How can I tell if she thinks I'm hot??" BS. I now realise, instead of trying to figure it out, and going through all the psychoanalysis, the surefire way of knowing whether she likes you or not is just GO FOR IT. Sure, you'll get rejected sometimes, but it's worth it for the success and the character building that comes in the long run.
Nismo-4's sig says it straight, "Strike while the iron's hot".
Now I know if a girl likes me straight away, because if my member is in her, there's a pretty good chance she likes me