i was reading the paper out in public today when this cute little number walked by. i looked at her as she walked by and her eyes went right to the floor. she then stood next to me and started adjusting her shirt and messing with with her hair and throwing it around and ****. i thought that was out of place at first and done because she liked my look but was unsure because she wasn't looking at me or anything as she did it. she then turned to face me and when she saw me looking turned back around. i was like **** it and figured what the hell and asked some question to get her attention and then we talked. the conversation went well and she goes to my college. i didn't ask for the # because i thought it was too good to be true but she is on my facebook now. i guess i can always ask for that though.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
this is what an interested chick does?
- Thread starter Heman6
- Start date
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Energizer
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Ask her for her number, it seems like she was trying to gain your attention, which worked.
If this happens again with a different girl, get the digits after some small talk. Get the ball rolling as soon as possible; life is too short to waste time.
Best of luck mate.
If this happens again with a different girl, get the digits after some small talk. Get the ball rolling as soon as possible; life is too short to waste time.
Best of luck mate.
thank you. i had wanted to ask for her number but i am so used to rejection i thought i couldn't be true which is why got facebook instead. but today i was more confident then usual and i dressed well. i felt a different energy from women today.a lot of women were holding eye contact with me albeit they weren't smiling. i think it was because i also wasn't smiling. i was all business today had some stuff on my mind. i think the major problem with me is confidence i know i am not so bad but had a hard time in childhood and it carried over, thus my less then great confidence. i am trying to change things i think i'm a lot better than i used to be but still need to make some progress.
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Rejection is apart of life mate, it's not nice and no one likes rejection, but it happens and it is how you deal with it that measures what kind of person you are. Don't let women determine your self worth, you are better than that. If a girl rejects you, then do what I do, just chalk it up as "her loss" and move on.
Also, listen to your gut instinct, it's usually right.
Go get this girls digits and get the ball rolling.
Also, listen to your gut instinct, it's usually right.
Go get this girls digits and get the ball rolling.
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Read my sig. 'Nuff said. You'll be ready soon enough.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
yes i am just trying to get over the fact that it is possible, there are women that might like me. that's been a struggle up until now. i don't think i have much to fear in this case. i know what to do i think once i actually succeed it will flip some switch and this will become a whole lot easier. someimes i think i pass up opportunities because of hesitancy!!!nismo-4 said:
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This is the way I see things: ALL women like me unless proven otherwise. For the record, it's quite rare that I'm proven otherwise
Always go for the close. If you think things are too good to be true, then they will be. If you think that she needs to have a good time with a fantastic guy like yourself, then it will happen.
that's a good attitude to have. hope i can get to that point one day. i don't think i'm revolting but never had the confidence to think women could like me (i was alwas the one girls went eww but not because of my looks but more my akwardness. i had some women interested in me that i found out too late). so you think i am in the clear and things are good? i mean it was too good to be true in the sense it seemed like she was blatantly flirting with me,,not used to that but maybe it happens more often and i miss it. it happened after she looked at me and i don't she was fixing herself for some other guy or anything. felt she stood next to me so i could open her. i need to work on just risking it, aka going for the close as you say.Desdinova said:This is the way I see things: ALL women like me unless proven otherwise. For the record, it's quite rare that I'm proven otherwise
Always go for the close. If you think things are too good to be true, then they will be. If you think that she needs to have a good time with a fantastic guy like yourself, then it will happen.
so how i can i get to your level where you gets lots of women?
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Like Journey said in their song....
Don't stop believing.
As for "lots of women" it's a numbers game. If you want to be mathematical about it..................
*BORING MATHS WARNING*
Let's say in your eyes, your looks were average, e.g. your rating is a 6/10. Hypothetically, that can translate to a 6/10 chance of getting a girl. So if you approached 1 girl, that's 0.6 girls you have successfully got. If you approach 100 girls, you will be successful with 60 of them.
*END BORING MATHS WARNING*
The above was just an example, it ain't so simple. What it illustrates is that if you want lots of women, you have to approach more.
I used to be so caught up in the whole "Does she like me? How can I tell if she thinks I'm hot??" BS. I now realise, instead of trying to figure it out, and going through all the psychoanalysis, the surefire way of knowing whether she likes you or not is just GO FOR IT. Sure, you'll get rejected sometimes, but it's worth it for the success and the character building that comes in the long run.
Nismo-4's sig says it straight, "Strike while the iron's hot".
Now I know if a girl likes me straight away, because if my member is in her, there's a pretty good chance she likes me
Don't stop believing.
As for "lots of women" it's a numbers game. If you want to be mathematical about it..................
*BORING MATHS WARNING*
Let's say in your eyes, your looks were average, e.g. your rating is a 6/10. Hypothetically, that can translate to a 6/10 chance of getting a girl. So if you approached 1 girl, that's 0.6 girls you have successfully got. If you approach 100 girls, you will be successful with 60 of them.
*END BORING MATHS WARNING*
The above was just an example, it ain't so simple. What it illustrates is that if you want lots of women, you have to approach more.
I used to be so caught up in the whole "Does she like me? How can I tell if she thinks I'm hot??" BS. I now realise, instead of trying to figure it out, and going through all the psychoanalysis, the surefire way of knowing whether she likes you or not is just GO FOR IT. Sure, you'll get rejected sometimes, but it's worth it for the success and the character building that comes in the long run.
Nismo-4's sig says it straight, "Strike while the iron's hot".
Now I know if a girl likes me straight away, because if my member is in her, there's a pretty good chance she likes me