"Blank Mind on Dates? She's Dropping Hints You Keep Missing"

The plates get cleared and the silence lands like a brick. You can feel her waiting. Your brain offers up your commute, your job, the weather — topics that have ended more second dates than bad breath.

Here's what most guys never learn: women hand out free conversational material all night long. Tiny clues about what they actually want to discuss. Catch them and you never run out of things to say — because she's telling you what to say next.

Rule 4 of the "22 Rules" trains your ear to catch every single one.

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Caesar

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Why have a lot of the girls I've pursued have boyfriends?
Today I volunteered for Martin Luther King day, which I must say is a great way to meet girls. So everything was going great with this one girl. I couldn't believe how ****y and funny I was. For instance, she asked me what nationality I was and I told her I was Filipino. Then she says she once had a crush on a Filipino guy which I responded, "so what is it about Filipino guys that you find attractive?" She just laughed and playfully hit me.
Like a good chess player, I had my moves already planned out. After volunteering, the group decided to eat out for lunch. She didn't have any money so I lent her money, thinking I could use the "instead of paying me back I'll let you buy me lunch" line, which would set me up for a "give me your number" line. But before that could happen she nonchalantly says she has a boyfriend. Upon hearing that my IL dropped and probably hers too because I ignored her the rest of the time. So she ended up paying me back.

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Ok it wasn't meant to be a question, I was just letting off some steam.
 

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That tends to happen with me too... I've hit up so many girls that has had BFs it's not even funny. Actually the very very very few women I've actually considered as a gf subject I've found had bf's already.
 

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What you have to remember is this: for many women, to admit to being single is one of the hardest things they can do. A single man is able to portray himself as a free living bachelor, but a single woman still has the stigma of being 'on the shelf' - just look at the term we use to describe an unmarried woman - 'spinster' - ie someone who just sits around spinning all day.

A lot of single women will SAY they have a boyfriend to scare you off, and I have even known an woman to completely fabricate a relationship in order not to lose face.

Many women also will not dump a boyfriend until they are sure they have a replacement lined up.

So don't be put off by women saying they have a boyfriend - judge each case on its merits. Is she saying it to get rid of you, or is there a possibility that you are being considered for the role?
 

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She didn't have any money so I lent her money, thinking I could use the "instead of paying me back I'll let you buy me lunch" line, which would set me up for a "give me your number" line. But....
I understand that you're trying an angle here, but I'd really advise against it. Suppose she said "Sure", gets her free lunch then blows you off on the repay?

Last night, a girl I've identified as a classic beauty with classic low self-esteem issues, tried to get me to buy her a 15 dollor shirt at this pub we frequent. Of course, the answer was no. I swear, she spent more time trying to get me to buy her one when she could have just washed dishes in the back and earned it faster.

When she saw that her efforts were wasted on me, she pulls out a hundred and buys tthe shirt for herself. She'd been saying all night how broke she was. Heck, she's always saying that.

I guess the point I'm trying to make is that just because she says she's broke, doesn't mean she's broke. There's a little thing called a shyt test; a girl will say she's broke just to see if she still has the stuff to get it for free. Believe what you see them do, not what they say.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Looks like I got to her first. :D You shouldn't have blown her off completely. You might see her around campus and she could introduce you to her friends.

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