"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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This is silly... I'm too old to have a CRUSH.

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This might be AFC-ish, so kill me...

I'm severely attracted to a classmate of mine, she's modestly attractive, but has a hb10 personality. Strangely enough I'm not sexually attracted to her, but I'm in love with her mind, personality, and the joy that she gives to the world. My gf is way hotter than her, but she's constantly on my mind...


My real life friends Yell "FK her" (as if kissing her doesn't make me feel guilty enough:rolleyes:) and I don't really think I need any adivice because she is leaving the state in 2 weeks, but damn she needs to get out of my head...

I'm done I needed to write that........


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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I hate it when the gurus say "attraction is not a choice", but damned if it aint true, BOTH ways.

Check out my age...yep, never too old to get stupid on somebody.

Some chicks are natural DJ's, and its US that get DJ'd! Hate that sh*t, but at least we can recognize it.

If your in a LTR though, could be a sign your wanker is hungry for something new and different.....
 
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grinder said:
I hate it when the gurus say "attraction is not a choice", but damned if it aint true, BOTH ways.

Check out my age...yep, never too old to get stupid on somebody.

Some chicks are natural DJ's, and its US that get DJ'd! Hate that sh*t, but at least we can recognize it.

If your in a LTR though, could be a sign your wanker is hungry for something new and different.....
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My feelings for her are more of respect than sexual. I think that she is one of the last genuine good people on earth. She has the curiosity of a child and freely gives of herself. I'm slowly getting over her, and I have her on a mini pedestal, but I'm slowly getting over.
 
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Self-Mastery...here is my advice based on years of experience:

You have a girlfriend.
And you have a crush for another girl.

So far..."okay".

The bad part is that you shared that information with your FRIENDS! Dude...there some things that are better kept to yourself. Especially now that we have Message Boards that we can use for the purpose of venting and ranting.

If you are married...or are in a committed relationship...NEVER...NEVER...NEVER...share with your friends the fact that you have a crush for another woman or were involved in affairs!
 
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Although it's usually promoted by women, this is the exact reason why guys should pursue a LTR with a woman who stimulates him psychologically. If you base your attraction solely on looks, what's gonna happen when the woman is 40 or 50 years old? There will be NOTHING to base attraction on.

The personality comes out winning in the long run.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Desdinova said:
Although it's usually promoted by women, this is the exact reason why guys should pursue a LTR with a woman who stimulates him psychologically. If you base your attraction solely on looks, what's gonna happen when the woman is 40 or 50 years old? There will be NOTHING to base attraction on.

The personality comes out winning in the long run.
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At least for me, a big part of that winning personality is her life-long desire to take care of herself and stay hot. Although there will always be smoking hot young chicks, a woman of 40 or 50 can still stay quite sexually attractive if she's taken the effort to maintain herself. I completely agree with your point about psychological attraction, but you're implying here that it's improbable you can have both highly attractive personality AND lasting hotness.

Realistically though, most chicks don't have the self-improvement character trait. We must choose our LTRs wisely!
 
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Desdinova said:
Although it's usually promoted by women, this is the exact reason why guys should pursue a LTR with a woman who stimulates him psychologically. If you base your attraction solely on looks, what's gonna happen when the woman is 40 or 50 years old? There will be NOTHING to base attraction on.

The personality comes out winning in the long run.
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Totally:up:
 
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Desdinova said:
, what's gonna happen when the woman is 40 or 50 years old?
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How the hell would I know what's going to be happening with her? I will have dumped her ass 20 or 30 years prior... :D
 
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I personally like the strawberry Crush. I've never been a fan of the grape. Of course, Orange Crush will always remain the dominator. Self-Mastery, it's just a soda - you're never too old to endulge in a refreshing beverage such as Crush.
 
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I'm going to use this chick as an example of how one should live... I might talk to her again in a month or so...
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I'm over her!
 
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