"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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This is silly... I'm too old to have a CRUSH.

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This might be AFC-ish, so kill me...

I'm severely attracted to a classmate of mine, she's modestly attractive, but has a hb10 personality. Strangely enough I'm not sexually attracted to her, but I'm in love with her mind, personality, and the joy that she gives to the world. My gf is way hotter than her, but she's constantly on my mind...


My real life friends Yell "FK her" (as if kissing her doesn't make me feel guilty enough:rolleyes:) and I don't really think I need any adivice because she is leaving the state in 2 weeks, but damn she needs to get out of my head...

I'm done I needed to write that........


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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I hate it when the gurus say "attraction is not a choice", but damned if it aint true, BOTH ways.

Check out my age...yep, never too old to get stupid on somebody.

Some chicks are natural DJ's, and its US that get DJ'd! Hate that sh*t, but at least we can recognize it.

If your in a LTR though, could be a sign your wanker is hungry for something new and different.....
 
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grinder said:
I hate it when the gurus say "attraction is not a choice", but damned if it aint true, BOTH ways.

Check out my age...yep, never too old to get stupid on somebody.

Some chicks are natural DJ's, and its US that get DJ'd! Hate that sh*t, but at least we can recognize it.

If your in a LTR though, could be a sign your wanker is hungry for something new and different.....
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My feelings for her are more of respect than sexual. I think that she is one of the last genuine good people on earth. She has the curiosity of a child and freely gives of herself. I'm slowly getting over her, and I have her on a mini pedestal, but I'm slowly getting over.
 
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Self-Mastery...here is my advice based on years of experience:

You have a girlfriend.
And you have a crush for another girl.

So far..."okay".

The bad part is that you shared that information with your FRIENDS! Dude...there some things that are better kept to yourself. Especially now that we have Message Boards that we can use for the purpose of venting and ranting.

If you are married...or are in a committed relationship...NEVER...NEVER...NEVER...share with your friends the fact that you have a crush for another woman or were involved in affairs!
 
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Although it's usually promoted by women, this is the exact reason why guys should pursue a LTR with a woman who stimulates him psychologically. If you base your attraction solely on looks, what's gonna happen when the woman is 40 or 50 years old? There will be NOTHING to base attraction on.

The personality comes out winning in the long run.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Desdinova said:
Although it's usually promoted by women, this is the exact reason why guys should pursue a LTR with a woman who stimulates him psychologically. If you base your attraction solely on looks, what's gonna happen when the woman is 40 or 50 years old? There will be NOTHING to base attraction on.

The personality comes out winning in the long run.
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At least for me, a big part of that winning personality is her life-long desire to take care of herself and stay hot. Although there will always be smoking hot young chicks, a woman of 40 or 50 can still stay quite sexually attractive if she's taken the effort to maintain herself. I completely agree with your point about psychological attraction, but you're implying here that it's improbable you can have both highly attractive personality AND lasting hotness.

Realistically though, most chicks don't have the self-improvement character trait. We must choose our LTRs wisely!
 
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Desdinova said:
Although it's usually promoted by women, this is the exact reason why guys should pursue a LTR with a woman who stimulates him psychologically. If you base your attraction solely on looks, what's gonna happen when the woman is 40 or 50 years old? There will be NOTHING to base attraction on.

The personality comes out winning in the long run.
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Totally:up:
 
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Desdinova said:
, what's gonna happen when the woman is 40 or 50 years old?
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How the hell would I know what's going to be happening with her? I will have dumped her ass 20 or 30 years prior... :D
 
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I personally like the strawberry Crush. I've never been a fan of the grape. Of course, Orange Crush will always remain the dominator. Self-Mastery, it's just a soda - you're never too old to endulge in a refreshing beverage such as Crush.
 
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I'm going to use this chick as an example of how one should live... I might talk to her again in a month or so...
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I'm over her!
 
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