So I was talking to some girl who was in a social clique that I was in from a few years ago. I was simply having a friendly conversation, I wasn't trying to hook up with her or ask her out. But she insists that I want to date her/hook up with her and keeps on consistently telling me "I have a boyfriend." WTF?!?! I wasn't asking her out, I was just being friendly. Why must every girl I talk to think I want something more than being friends? At least I know now that I come off as the nice and desperate guy and not a friendly cool one. :::sigh:::
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This is REALLY annoying
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Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
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Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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She was insecure.
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when she tells u she has a boyfriend, it could mean u have conveyed too much interest. but there are other reasons why she would tell you too.
its really not much when she tells u she has a boyfriend, i have just recently hooked up with this girl who had a boyfriend. you just gotta make her look bad for it.
its really not much when she tells u she has a boyfriend, i have just recently hooked up with this girl who had a boyfriend. you just gotta make her look bad for it.
Rhoto
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I'm going to assume a couple things:Demystify said:
1) You're not looking for a girl friend per se, you're looking to get laid. Mind you this doesn't rule out the possibility, but it sounds like you're too immature for a serious relationship. (and no offense is intended by that statement.)
2) You don't really care what women that you're not banging think of you.
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First, you should have a couple of back handed responses to this, especially if you don't plan to get in the sack with her.
I prefer - "Don't worry hun, I'm not jealous." (from the City of Men series)
But I've also used:
"Why do you think I'd consider sleeping with you?"
"Please hun, you think much too highly of yourself."
"Then why are you wasting my time?"
All should be used with caution, because if you don't have the Mojo (personality) to back it up, you'll be a poser.
But the underlying problem is the reaction women are giving you. Minimize what you say to women. Let them talk, they love to. Always redirect back to them, because this does two things:
1) Prevents you from saying something stupid that will make her count you out.
2) She thinks you actually care what she has to say. Thus increasing the probability of you tapping it.
And stop being so friendly. Really. Stop. Friends are friendly.
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I had something similar happen to me yesterday. I found it annoying as well and was wondering what I should have done in my situation.
I know a girl that did something similar. Yesterday I was sitting in a coffee shop drinking a cup of joe and writing in my journal. She comes in and sees me and instead of ordering a drink at the counter she comes over and sits at my table and starts to talk with me. "Yadda yadda yadda" for five minutes then she says we should get together sometime in the next few weeks".
"Sounds good to me" I say. She has said this before but never seems to actually make the plans right then and there.
She gets up and goes to the counter to order her coffee. I get back to writing when I notice my cup is empty. I want a refill so I get up and walk over to the counter and just happen to stand behind her as she orders her drink. After ordering her drink she turns to me and says something like "I just told you, we WILL get together in a few weeks Catnip, OK?"
She said it in this kinda of tone as if she assumed I was coming back up to talk with her again and specifically ask her when we could get together again.
I was just going up there to get a refill on my coffee, she assumed I was following after her like a puppy dog or something because I just happened to get up within 30 seconds after she left.
In my mind I was thinking, you stupid women, do you think everything that everyone does revolves around you? I wanted to say something to her at the time but I just smiled a little and held up my cup and ordered my refill.
I know a girl that did something similar. Yesterday I was sitting in a coffee shop drinking a cup of joe and writing in my journal. She comes in and sees me and instead of ordering a drink at the counter she comes over and sits at my table and starts to talk with me. "Yadda yadda yadda" for five minutes then she says we should get together sometime in the next few weeks".
"Sounds good to me" I say. She has said this before but never seems to actually make the plans right then and there.
She gets up and goes to the counter to order her coffee. I get back to writing when I notice my cup is empty. I want a refill so I get up and walk over to the counter and just happen to stand behind her as she orders her drink. After ordering her drink she turns to me and says something like "I just told you, we WILL get together in a few weeks Catnip, OK?"
She said it in this kinda of tone as if she assumed I was coming back up to talk with her again and specifically ask her when we could get together again.
I was just going up there to get a refill on my coffee, she assumed I was following after her like a puppy dog or something because I just happened to get up within 30 seconds after she left.
In my mind I was thinking, you stupid women, do you think everything that everyone does revolves around you? I wanted to say something to her at the time but I just smiled a little and held up my cup and ordered my refill.
Why would you assume that she thinks you are nice and desperate, and not friendly and cool?Demystify said:
She could be thinking this guy is attractive and for some reason his conversational dynamics mixed with that sexy glint in his eye is getting me a little bit moist downstairs, OMG can my social circle sense this? I better tell him about my BF in case this gets back to him,
She could be a decent girl who just has respect for her boyfriend or even a dreaded AW, who cares man, it's her problem not yours.......you know what your intentions were....why let it annoy you? Who cares?