"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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this is Probably easily answered by you..

Deus

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Well, first off, the background story *looks at people wander off elsewhere....*

I met a girl some 3 weeks ago, at a club.
She's one of my mates, mates 'Lil sister. (ah well, she's just 2 years younger than me..). We got along bloody well, she even pulled me up to the dancefloor.

She was VERY surprised when she saw my moves, bluntly said, I'm a DARN good dancer.

after a while, of dirtydancing with her, I tried to kiss her. (she did look deeply into my eyes and all that....).

Now, problem one. She moved her head sideways, so I only gave her a peck on the cheek..

BUT, afterwards, we all headed to a mates place for an afterparty (she practicly dragged me along).

At the afterparty, her (/%& cod blocking friend, complained CONSTANTLY that she was tired. So, at 5am, they headed home. I got a long bloody hug.
(and a number..)

Anyways, The thursday afterwards, I called her up, but she said she would be busy for the weekend (she works 'till late friday night, and she was going to a place with her family on saturday).

Same thing the week after that, but, she was also brooke. (oh, and busy again.. surprise!)

So, the week after that was last weekend, I was out of town for midsummer. When I came home again, She actually called ME! (it was a saturday), so I snuck in the question about heading to the clubs that evening, but she was to tired, (she'd just come home from the other side of the country basicly). So, dumb-arse me, just finished the conversation, saying something like; have a nice day.

I HEARD that she wanted to continue the conversation, but I *HATE* talking on the phone. (not just to girls, I just hate talking on the phone with ANYONE, including mates and family).

ON to the questions:

A friend of mine, is having a bbq party this saturday.

Should I do the pathetic thing, ie call her up (again) and ask her if she wants to come along? OR should I ask her (probably in vain, since she MIGHT be working) if she wants to head to my place on friday and watch a movie or something?

My mates, tells me their gonna give me a beating if I don't do anything about this girl, 'cause "she's totally into you!".

SO, Feel free to post any and all advice, and point out what stuff I did right, and what I did wrong, so I can correct it if I end up like this again. (I usually meet chicks in the clubs... probably due to the dancing.).

Should I do a DTB (Ditch the bi***)and hope SHE calls me again, or meet her somewhere?

Cya
-Deus

(note, tomorrow is friday,,, the bbq is THIS weekend, maybe Iäm a wee bit too late??)
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Wiesman44

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dude, stop freaking analyzing this and call her up and invite her. You know you want to, so just do it.
 

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Awww... I *HATE* talking on the phone.. And, I've already called her, like 2 times! (once a week....) I might start looking pathetic and needy..

But.. maybe your right.

I'll check in here again in an hour or two, and see if there are any other replies, I gotta go buy some beer and stuff for the bbq now..

Cya
-Deus
 

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You mates might be AFCs they think any sign is "totally into you" perhaps. That aside, yeah just call her. Try for a WEEKDAY event if possible. You won't be hitting the party scene but that does not matter, your goal is to seal the deal on at least a "freedom" kiss and some groping, and more if possible of course.

if she blows you off again, move on. You have been more than fair with her already.
 
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