this is Probably easily answered by you..

[Deus]

Well, first off, the background story *looks at people wander off elsewhere....*

I met a girl some 3 weeks ago, at a club.
She's one of my mates, mates 'Lil sister. (ah well, she's just 2 years younger than me..). We got along bloody well, she even pulled me up to the dancefloor.

She was VERY surprised when she saw my moves, bluntly said, I'm a DARN good dancer.

after a while, of dirtydancing with her, I tried to kiss her. (she did look deeply into my eyes and all that....).

Now, problem one. She moved her head sideways, so I only gave her a peck on the cheek..

BUT, afterwards, we all headed to a mates place for an afterparty (she practicly dragged me along).

At the afterparty, her (/%& cod blocking friend, complained CONSTANTLY that she was tired. So, at 5am, they headed home. I got a long bloody hug.
(and a number..)

Anyways, The thursday afterwards, I called her up, but she said she would be busy for the weekend (she works 'till late friday night, and she was going to a place with her family on saturday).

Same thing the week after that, but, she was also brooke. (oh, and busy again.. surprise!)

So, the week after that was last weekend, I was out of town for midsummer. When I came home again, She actually called ME! (it was a saturday), so I snuck in the question about heading to the clubs that evening, but she was to tired, (she'd just come home from the other side of the country basicly). So, dumb-arse me, just finished the conversation, saying something like; have a nice day.

I HEARD that she wanted to continue the conversation, but I *HATE* talking on the phone. (not just to girls, I just hate talking on the phone with ANYONE, including mates and family).

ON to the questions:

A friend of mine, is having a bbq party this saturday.

Should I do the pathetic thing, ie call her up (again) and ask her if she wants to come along? OR should I ask her (probably in vain, since she MIGHT be working) if she wants to head to my place on friday and watch a movie or something?

My mates, tells me their gonna give me a beating if I don't do anything about this girl, 'cause "she's totally into you!".

SO, Feel free to post any and all advice, and point out what stuff I did right, and what I did wrong, so I can correct it if I end up like this again. (I usually meet chicks in the clubs... probably due to the dancing.).

Should I do a DTB (Ditch the bi***)and hope SHE calls me again, or meet her somewhere?

Cya
-Deus

(note, tomorrow is friday,,, the bbq is THIS weekend, maybe Iäm a wee bit too late??)

 

[Wiesman44]

dude, stop freaking analyzing this and call her up and invite her. You know you want to, so just do it.

 

[Deus]

Awww... I *HATE* talking on the phone.. And, I've already called her, like 2 times! (once a week....) I might start looking pathetic and needy..

But.. maybe your right.

I'll check in here again in an hour or two, and see if there are any other replies, I gotta go buy some beer and stuff for the bbq now..

Cya
-Deus

 

[DJohnson]

You mates might be AFCs they think any sign is "totally into you" perhaps. That aside, yeah just call her. Try for a WEEKDAY event if possible. You won't be hitting the party scene but that does not matter, your goal is to seal the deal on at least a "freedom" kiss and some groping, and more if possible of course.

if she blows you off again, move on. You have been more than fair with her already.