"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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This is how "spinning plates" works...

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Went away for a weekend snowboarding trip. Got back yesterday around 2PM and wanted some company for the football games. Texted Girl #1 and asked her if she wanted to watch with me. She says maybe...she's gonna be having lunch with a friend in my neighborhood anyway and will call me after she gets done.

This is a lockdown tactic and I know it...she isn't sure if she wants to come over, but if she DOES decide she wants to come over, she wants me to be there waiting for her.

It gets to about halftime of the GB/CHI game and no call. "Lunch" must've gone well. If I don't have any other options, I get frustrated and feel like a clowned chump waiting for her to give me a call.

Instead, I send Girl #1 a text..."I'm gonna just go over a friend's and watch the game. Sorry we couldn't hook up...I'll get with you later this week." Then I send a text to Girl #2..."What're you doing for the game? Do you wanna come watch with me?"

Girl #2 came. And then she came. And then she came again. ;)

And if Girl #1's lunch-date turns out to be a creepy AFC with a small pen!s, I left the door open for her...none of this, "OMG I cannot be disrespected!! NEXT!!" crap. I have no intention of calling her back now, but likely I'll get a mid-week text from her...that's her MO. :p

"So what if Girl #2 flakes too?"

Then I either stay home or go to the bar and watch the games by myself. After Girl #2 gave me an awesome BJ, we went out to a bar to watch the second half anyway and there were a couple of cuties across the bar that I could've talked to if I was alone.

The point is they're just girls...and one can be replaced as quickly as another. That is until you find one for your so-called "relationship"...but then you'll screen her carefully enough that she won't do anything that merits replacing.

Will she? ;)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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squirrels said:
Went away for a weekend snowboarding trip. Got back yesterday around 2PM and wanted some company for the football games. Texted Girl #1 and asked her if she wanted to watch with me. She says maybe...she's gonna be having lunch with a friend in my neighborhood anyway and will call me after she gets done.

This is a lockdown tactic and I know it...she isn't sure if she wants to come over, but if she DOES decide she wants to come over, she wants me to be there waiting for her.

It gets to about halftime of the GB/CHI game and no call. "Lunch" must've gone well. If I don't have any other options, I get frustrated and feel like a clowned chump waiting for her to give me a call.

Instead, I send Girl #1 a text..."I'm gonna just go over a friend's and watch the game. Sorry we couldn't hook up...I'll get with you later this week." Then I send a text to Girl #2..."What're you doing for the game? Do you wanna come watch with me?"

Girl #2 came. And then she came. And then she came again. ;)

And if Girl #1's lunch-date turns out to be a creepy AFC with a small pen!s, I left the door open for her...none of this, "OMG I cannot be disrespected!! NEXT!!" crap. I have no intention of calling her back now, but likely I'll get a mid-week text from her...that's her MO. :p

"So what if Girl #2 flakes too?"

Then I either stay home or go to the bar and watch the games by myself. After Girl #2 gave me an awesome BJ, we went out to a bar to watch the second half anyway and there were a couple of cuties across the bar that I could've talked to if I was alone.

The point is they're just girls...and one can be replaced as quickly as another. That is until you find one for your so-called "relationship"...but then you'll screen her carefully enough that she won't do anything that merits replacing.

Will she? ;)
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This is a Squirrels post?

:eek:

Great to see theory in action, so Squirrles were you meeting these chickas? I swear it's -15 below I'm POFing it (yeah I know)

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Solomon said:
:eek:

This is a Squirrels post?

:eek:

Great to see theory in action, so Squirrles were you meeting these chickas? I swear it's -15 below I'm POFing it (yeah I know)

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Both these girls are PoF material. I need to get back into "the field". Just haven't had a lot of time for drinkin' lately. :p
 

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Niice..great example man! thanks.

For me the real world examples are the ones that sink in the farthest...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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