"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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This is how "spinning plates" works...

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Went away for a weekend snowboarding trip. Got back yesterday around 2PM and wanted some company for the football games. Texted Girl #1 and asked her if she wanted to watch with me. She says maybe...she's gonna be having lunch with a friend in my neighborhood anyway and will call me after she gets done.

This is a lockdown tactic and I know it...she isn't sure if she wants to come over, but if she DOES decide she wants to come over, she wants me to be there waiting for her.

It gets to about halftime of the GB/CHI game and no call. "Lunch" must've gone well. If I don't have any other options, I get frustrated and feel like a clowned chump waiting for her to give me a call.

Instead, I send Girl #1 a text..."I'm gonna just go over a friend's and watch the game. Sorry we couldn't hook up...I'll get with you later this week." Then I send a text to Girl #2..."What're you doing for the game? Do you wanna come watch with me?"

Girl #2 came. And then she came. And then she came again. ;)

And if Girl #1's lunch-date turns out to be a creepy AFC with a small pen!s, I left the door open for her...none of this, "OMG I cannot be disrespected!! NEXT!!" crap. I have no intention of calling her back now, but likely I'll get a mid-week text from her...that's her MO. :p

"So what if Girl #2 flakes too?"

Then I either stay home or go to the bar and watch the games by myself. After Girl #2 gave me an awesome BJ, we went out to a bar to watch the second half anyway and there were a couple of cuties across the bar that I could've talked to if I was alone.

The point is they're just girls...and one can be replaced as quickly as another. That is until you find one for your so-called "relationship"...but then you'll screen her carefully enough that she won't do anything that merits replacing.

Will she? ;)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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squirrels said:
Went away for a weekend snowboarding trip. Got back yesterday around 2PM and wanted some company for the football games. Texted Girl #1 and asked her if she wanted to watch with me. She says maybe...she's gonna be having lunch with a friend in my neighborhood anyway and will call me after she gets done.

This is a lockdown tactic and I know it...she isn't sure if she wants to come over, but if she DOES decide she wants to come over, she wants me to be there waiting for her.

It gets to about halftime of the GB/CHI game and no call. "Lunch" must've gone well. If I don't have any other options, I get frustrated and feel like a clowned chump waiting for her to give me a call.

Instead, I send Girl #1 a text..."I'm gonna just go over a friend's and watch the game. Sorry we couldn't hook up...I'll get with you later this week." Then I send a text to Girl #2..."What're you doing for the game? Do you wanna come watch with me?"

Girl #2 came. And then she came. And then she came again. ;)

And if Girl #1's lunch-date turns out to be a creepy AFC with a small pen!s, I left the door open for her...none of this, "OMG I cannot be disrespected!! NEXT!!" crap. I have no intention of calling her back now, but likely I'll get a mid-week text from her...that's her MO. :p

"So what if Girl #2 flakes too?"

Then I either stay home or go to the bar and watch the games by myself. After Girl #2 gave me an awesome BJ, we went out to a bar to watch the second half anyway and there were a couple of cuties across the bar that I could've talked to if I was alone.

The point is they're just girls...and one can be replaced as quickly as another. That is until you find one for your so-called "relationship"...but then you'll screen her carefully enough that she won't do anything that merits replacing.

Will she? ;)
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This is a Squirrels post?

:eek:

Great to see theory in action, so Squirrles were you meeting these chickas? I swear it's -15 below I'm POFing it (yeah I know)

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Solomon said:
:eek:

This is a Squirrels post?

:eek:

Great to see theory in action, so Squirrles were you meeting these chickas? I swear it's -15 below I'm POFing it (yeah I know)

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Both these girls are PoF material. I need to get back into "the field". Just haven't had a lot of time for drinkin' lately. :p
 

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Niice..great example man! thanks.

For me the real world examples are the ones that sink in the farthest...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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