okay so the last two weeks i've literally had atleast eight-ten 8+'s show IOI's very clearly, a few were at warped tour, a few at cedar point, a few around locally, etc. this thread isn't to brag or so everyone thinks i am cool, and i consider myself to be decent looking and like alot of people have been told that i am handsome or good looking. my problem is that even when i can tell a girl is interested, i still have a problem initiating a convo. i pretty much fell in love w/ a girl the other day and we both gave eachother long ec and smiles, and she gave me many oppurtunities to start a convo, but i never did. i don't know why or what causes this, i am a little nervous but no that nervous. when i start the convo i am fine, but starting is the problem. what do you do to pump yourselves up before you make the approach? any help is appreciated.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
this is getting old.....
- Thread starter swaptrex
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Try to make sure you have something to say 
- For me, it wasn't about pumping myself up, it was about realising what I was afraid of. That was: I'm afraid that there will be an awkward silence, not the rejection. To get around that problem I try to have a stadard "rap" that I use, just a few stories, topics, jokes, ****y negs or compliments etc I know it's best to think of something specific about the girl but I'm not the best when I'm put on the spot, my fear just freezes me. Once the convo starts though, again like you I can think on my feet.
- For me, it wasn't about pumping myself up, it was about realising what I was afraid of. That was: I'm afraid that there will be an awkward silence, not the rejection. To get around that problem I try to have a stadard "rap" that I use, just a few stories, topics, jokes, ****y negs or compliments etc I know it's best to think of something specific about the girl but I'm not the best when I'm put on the spot, my fear just freezes me. Once the convo starts though, again like you I can think on my feet.