"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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This is F-d up!!!!!!!!!

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Yesterday I was at a local bar having a few drinks with my bros. I'm sitting there eating buffalo wings, and basically minding my own business.

After about a half hour, this cute brunette chick comes and sits next to me. I really didn't pay her much attention, but in the back of my mind I thought she looked kind of familiar.

She kept making eye contact with me, but seeing as I'm engaged, I pretty much blew it off. This went on for awhile until she finally introduces herself to me. She said she was new to town, and wanted a "Big strong Marine" to show her around.

My buddies were kinda laughing, but something about this didn't feel right. I asked her if we've ever met, because she looked really familiar. She said no..and that this was her first time to the west coast.

Then this woman starts putting her hands on me...she's stroking my arms..touching my face..eventually I had to tell her I was engaged, and I wasn't interested.

Then she begins to laugh hysterically...I'm like WHAT THE ****? She then proceeds to tell me my fiance asked her to hit on me to see what I'd do????????

She said she works at the same office building my fiance does, and this was a little "test" to see if I was faithful....

I am so pissed!!!!! If she doesn't fvcking trust me...why is she marrying me????? I was so mad that when I got home I called my fiance. She thought it was harmless, and did it to see if I was true to my word. I told her I thought it was stupid fvcking game playing, and I hung up...

She's been texting me, and calling me, but I won't pick up. She's crying and saying she only wanted to see if I really love her....

I don't know guys. This really has me steamed....what should I do here?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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even though you wont listen to me. Break up wit her a realationship without trust is doomed to faliure let alone a marrige without trust.
 

I'm Joe Dirt

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She is probably having marriage jitters and wants to make sure she isn't making a mistake. Forgive her, but let her know that she shouldn't do that kind of thing in the future.

Its no reason to break up with her. If you are with her to the point of marriage it means you already have worked hard. Don't let some jerks here obsessed with "nexting" tell you to leave her now.
 

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I dont appreicate your tone JOE i am not obbsessed with nexting i have told you time and time again not to jump to conclusions. If you read the other thread that he started you will see that i admited that i could be wrong in this situation because i have never been engaged/in love.
 

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What she did was pretty bad, I would feel insulted if that happened to me. She shouldn't be marrying you if she feels she can't trust you.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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lebRambo

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like joe said, forgive her, but let her know that you won't be taking any more of that sh*t. she obviously loves you if she keeps texting you and calling you and crying and sh*t.
 

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I gotta tell you that the decision lies with you.
You were wronged by this woman and only you knwo whether or not it was "harmless." If it were me I would follow Black's advice and let her go if you don't feel that she was just liable for stupid judgement.
I am telling you to listen to how YOU feel about her actions. If you think it was an act of stupidity, forgive and move on. If you feel her motives were to TEST you, then move on. Testing is for High School, real adults TRUST until it has been lost. I would think she is the one that lost trust.
Good luck to you on sorting this out.
 

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Man, I'm sorry that happened but are you fvcking retarted? For the life of me I don't even know why you needed to post this.

This is a prediction. Drop her, that is my opinion.
 

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I'd forgive her. You did the right thing, in my opinion. But like someone up there said, u worked hard to get to this point in ur relationship. she should trust you now, anyway.

sounds like something done out of immaturity/fun not spite.

*shrugs* best of luck.

-JP
 

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thats pretty fvucked up man. Make her do something for you.:)
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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NEXT!







:crackup: ..jk


thats quite the situation...
 
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