Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Namelisswonder5

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Ok so Im a dj lol no I try to be a dj im a dj in training. Im a junior in high school and life is fairly good with the ladies, and bassically if I like a girl I can get her to like me, or at least enough to hook up with me. Such is the case with the girl I will discuss In this post. Lets call her Loco, since that is part of her nickname. Ok this is a gorgeous girl that I met in my pshch. class and we pretty much hit it off. I said I wanted to see this movie (not asking her out) and she in turn said shed love to take me so we went on our first date, this was two weeks ago. I took it slow and after the movie we went to dennys at like 12:45 at night I got home at about 1:45 and only took like a bit more than a peck, she wanted more, but I wanted her wanting more so I just hopped out of the car and went home. Last week she ask me to the fair after I ask her to an amusement park but she had already had the plans for the fair. I said yeah seeing that this would be a good opportunity for me to meet her best friends and for her to meet mine. I would have to say that the fair was a dissaster but I was still good. See at the fair I picked her up, and her chest is so ginormous that her wrist got rolled in her chest, and I almost broke her wrist. Then thinking she was playing I laughed until I noticed she was crying. I then won her this huge teddy bear and she got over it, and me and her friends went to her house. Her parents werent home and we decided to party, yes high schoolers partying with alchohol, there was only 7 of us tho so its ok. Ok so later that night me and her went up to her room and were doing some spooning cause we were both tired, ( i had drank, she didnt) and even later we made out a little. Then her and my best friend got into it at about 1:15 in the morning and she kicked him out so I had to leave to since he is my ride. I left though, knowing that her friends love me, and she likes me (her friends i think much more than her though).Even with all that this monday we were still cool, and I was planning to ask her out this weekend.........So today I got a sample of some old spice body spray, i didnt want it so i gave it to her (in psych class). She threw it at me flirtingly, and I sprayed it all over her. She then flirted a little bit with me but not much at all compared to what she ussually does that period. And also she was sending a suspicious looking note back and forth to her friend which was gay. THE REAL STORY STARTS HERE. After class she walked out without speaking to me. When I was in the hall she pops out from no where and sprays the rest of the body spray all over me, and runs away laughing, so I shout down the hall "I hate you Loco." Then the period after that she sends me a message saying, "Pay backs a *****.. Bye ..*..Loco..*.." So I replied "Yeah it will be a ***** when I get payback on you. Laters." Then she says out of the blue "Ur such an ass.. Ur just like all the other boys..N im not kidding anymore! Really dont talk 2 me." So I shocked replied " Do you really feel that way, if so why the change of heart." She just said "Ill tell you later." So I wnna know if anyone sees where I went wrong here, or knows what I should do. My friend d says that she wouldnt be so mad at me if she didnt like me and I kinda agree. It was like one minute we were hittin it off, the next she flippin out. I need help any ideas?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Namelisswonder5

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Originally posted by Docs
I'm a real noob.
What's spooning?
That would be cuddling in a position like spoons fit into each other, woman in front man in back really close.
 

LikRetsam

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Put some effort in to your post if you want replies.

Word of advice: paragraphs.
 

immrtlwun

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I don't see what you did wrong. A lot of girls tell me that I'm an ass, but it's usually in a playful tone. You should've ignored her after she told you not to talk to her anymore. She probably would've wondered why you weren't talking to her and then initiated a convo.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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lets see now.

after the long read (another kid who doesn't use paragraphs, which means he doesn't pay attention in class which means...)

you acted like an A$$ and so you are an A$$.

There is border line to being a jerk and all out JERK.
you entered the ALL out jerk.

you and your friend didn't act to well at her house.

be a jerk, but do be a charming bastard while at it.
treat her well once in dam while.

she's thinking all u want from her is just to make out.
she's not looking for that in u.
now she thinks your just pretending to be nice and funny etc
just to get into her pants.
now u just a created another chick with "all men are dogs" mentality.
you disappiont the male species man.

grow up.

start being a man and stop acting immature.
this is while younger girls go out with older guys, cus of kids like u.
 

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I'd say one of her friends wrote it. It happens to me a lot, just guessing.
 

Namelisswonder5

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Originally posted by Evangenlion
lets see now.

after the long read (another kid who doesn't use paragraphs, which means he doesn't pay attention in class which means...)

you acted like an A$$ and so you are an A$$.

There is border line to being a jerk and all out JERK.
you entered the ALL out jerk.

you and your friend didn't act to well at her house.

be a jerk, but do be a charming bastard while at it.
treat her well once in dam while.

she's thinking all u want from her is just to make out.
she's not looking for that in u.
now she thinks your just pretending to be nice and funny etc
just to get into her pants.
now u just a created another chick with "all men are dogs" mentality.
you disappiont the male species man.

grow up.

start being a man and stop acting immature.
this is while younger girls go out with older guys, cus of kids like u.
I love joining forums and making enimies. First off my friend acted like a jerk, not I, in fact her AND her friends loved me. SHE called ME last night like nothing was happening, and SHE set up a date for Friday, once again im not driving, that would be a waste of my gas money son. And your right im a jerk a big jerk, but im also a DJ who runs shiznit on my campus so im sorry i didnt act like you mustve when you were a kid. And oh yeah im hella immature i got a 3.7 and i placed 4th in state last year in wrestling, and ive been a police explorer for 2 1/2 years. Im bad and ive got everything going for me in life, so you my friend dissapoint me. Ill never grow im a toys r us kid SON. You proly mad cause you used to be a Don Juan now your name is just Twain
 

Evangenlion

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listen kid, i wasn't the one running here panicing and asking for advise.

this girl made you trip, not me.
you have no issue with me.
don't make one.
don't be assuming something you don't know.

you love forums to make enemies, that your problem, not mine.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Mr. Debonaire

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Originally posted by Evangenlion
lets see now.

after the long read (another kid who doesn't use paragraphs, which means he doesn't pay attention in class which means...)

you acted like an A$$ and so you are an A$$.

There is border line to being a jerk and all out JERK.
you entered the ALL out jerk.

you and your friend didn't act to well at her house.

be a jerk, but do be a charming bastard while at it.
treat her well once in dam while.

she's thinking all u want from her is just to make out.
she's not looking for that in u.
now she thinks your just pretending to be nice and funny etc
just to get into her pants.
now u just a created another chick with "all men are dogs" mentality.
you disappiont the male species man.

grow up.

start being a man and stop acting immature.
this is while younger girls go out with older guys, cus of kids like u.
Easy killer

He might have a gone a little overboard on the jerkiness, but it didn't deserve all of that.

Its also possible that this girl is seeking attention, which was suggested when instead of saying don't talk to me ever again, she said "I'll tell you later"
 
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