This has helped me a lot.

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Don Juan

Aug 20, 2006

I am not a Player/Alpha yet. I have become alot more successfull with woman this summer. And one thing that I believe is really important that a lot of people are missing is this.

Have more than one girl. Girl's are extremely jealous and having more than one(i'm working on about 3 right now. Could be 5) makes you much more "in demand" and girls tend to go nuts over guys who are busy with other girls.

It also makes you less desperate to hang out with one girl, You have other options which is so important.

I'm living by this motto of mine for Senior year.

"Why have one girlfriend when I can have five?"

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.