Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Or construction laborerHis best bet would be to get a job on a farm, An Oil rig or to join the Military.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Certainly not a barber.Or construction laborer
As much as I'd like to agree with " judge not, lest ye be judged", you have to remember the rest of that quote. " For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again." Don't judge IF you're unequally yoked. These panhandlers are everywhere where I live, and not one of them want to work.So what? People do what they need to do to survive. Its not like she went on the cc on tinder for fun. Unless you walk in their shoes nobody should say anything.
Before you answer btw, the self pity and nihilism these people are drawn too are literally the cause of all their problems. If people took some personal accountability they wouldn't be in such a position. I don't want to hear excuses, or actively encourage their ****ty behavior with "loose change", f@ck em, it's a dog eat dog world, if you can't accept that than honestly, why even live? Make the best with what you've been given, not even God could ask more from you.So what? People do what they need to do to survive. Its not like she went on the cc on tinder for fun. Unless you walk in their shoes nobody should say anything.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I think I was focusing more on the sexual/adultery aspect of the man's wife with the other stranger for money and the debate was on whether she actually enjoyed it or not, or if that had anything to do with her getting brain cancer afterwards. Everybody has the potential to commit adultery against their husband as this man's wife did, not just because they are homeless. It happens in all walks of life. So that's the aspect I think that is being judged as it's an issue on her character. Does the desperate situation excuse this wife to commit adultery against her husband for money or are we do judge and say she's a terrible person for doing that to him, even if it's for money and they both need it? The guy doesn't discuss any aspect of being incel, or having any issues talking with women, etc... on that video therefore he must be alright in that area if he's not complaining about it.As much as I'd like to agree with " judge not, lest ye be judged", you have to remember the rest of that quote. " For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again." Don't judge IF you're unequally yoked. These panhandlers are everywhere where I live, and not one of them want to work.
I can understand a beggar in biblical times; amputee, the elderly, widows, etc. But today? Literally, walk to the nearest public library, look up a charity to clean your ass up and give you a fresh cut (there are plenty), and get an obama phone from daddy government so you can schedule a job interview. They don't do that though, most of them are cracked out drug addicts that are trying to appear to your sympathy. Maybe this works the first couple of times on tourists, but if you see these dudes every day you'll realize that they're grown ass men who are too lazy to work and are using your charity to fuel their drug addiction.
Why should I give you money, when there are poor Spanish immigrants that arrive here with literally nothing and are working hard all day selling flowers/churros/etc on the same highway that grown ass people are literally begging on.
If you're 35 with no physical/mental disabilities and asking a 20 year old dude for change, you should be embarrassed of yourself. Seriously. Sure, life is tough, but I've had friends who were thrown out after graduating hs and are now paying for their own apartment plus college.
I think the second biggest problem with the homeless is that the US doesn't take mental health as seriously today. If you were found $hitting on a street corner and screaming at passerby they'd throw you into an asylum in the 1800s. Many of the homeless are a danger to themselves and others, they can't properly take care of their own well being, and many have the IQ of literal children. Mix in a bit of mental illness, and you've got some serious issues on your hands.