"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Well there is this HB8 that used to be in one of my classes last yr, first day of school she didn't stop staring at me. I was like, 'god damn, ima get with her easily'. Then later on, I found out she was already going out with one of my buddies (we ain't that close, but I really really respect the kid).

This yr just started a week ago, and I learned she broke up with him 3weeks ago, she keeps giving me IOIs but I don't know what the fu?& to do man. When I go talk to her she is always shy around me, and the conversation always seems awkward. Plus, as I said, I really respect the dude, and I would just feel like such a douchebag doing this to him. His whole crew (popular guys, im good friend with them but not as close as he is with them) they will just ditch me for doing this.

Man, I think I will just apply 'the bros before hoes' rule. But gawd damn, she is so hoooooot. And yeah, I might have a god damn one-itis =/

Give me some advices. PLEASE. I need them.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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It comes down to whether you value the girl more or the guy/crew. If you want the girl more, go for her; if you prefer the friendship, forget about her.

I was in a similar situation as you with a HB 9 but chose the friend over her. I have never regretted that, although it would have been great if we could have gotten together if circumstances were different.
 

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as what John said, you either lose the friends, for a shot w/ this wonderful girl as you say, or you keep these guys as not even close friends jsut friends and miss out on her. It comes down to is the girl worth the effort? because once he finds out there could be soem drama between you and these guys.
 

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Maybe there's a way to have the best of both worlds? Perhaps if you ask this guy if he'd be cool if you got with this ex, it'll make everything much easier. Who knows? You might even get lucky. He might say "Sure."
 

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Yeah, just ask the guy. I have a feeling he'll let you go after her, if the breakup is for good, I doubt he'll care.

It sounds like you have to lead the conversation, and your not doing a great job. It takes time for some people to open up to each other. Just get some good topics, and go at it.

Good luck.

-LC
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Mr_rogers said:
Maybe there's a way to have the best of both worlds? Perhaps if you ask this guy if he'd be cool if you got with this ex, it'll make everything much easier. Who knows? You might even get lucky. He might say "Sure."
Yeah, that is what I am planning to do. The plan : I get closer and closer to her, tease her, kino. And when I see I can have a shot easily with her, I will ask my bud if he's cool with it.

thx alot ppl.:D
 
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