"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Well there is this HB8 that used to be in one of my classes last yr, first day of school she didn't stop staring at me. I was like, 'god damn, ima get with her easily'. Then later on, I found out she was already going out with one of my buddies (we ain't that close, but I really really respect the kid).

This yr just started a week ago, and I learned she broke up with him 3weeks ago, she keeps giving me IOIs but I don't know what the fu?& to do man. When I go talk to her she is always shy around me, and the conversation always seems awkward. Plus, as I said, I really respect the dude, and I would just feel like such a douchebag doing this to him. His whole crew (popular guys, im good friend with them but not as close as he is with them) they will just ditch me for doing this.

Man, I think I will just apply 'the bros before hoes' rule. But gawd damn, she is so hoooooot. And yeah, I might have a god damn one-itis =/

Give me some advices. PLEASE. I need them.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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It comes down to whether you value the girl more or the guy/crew. If you want the girl more, go for her; if you prefer the friendship, forget about her.

I was in a similar situation as you with a HB 9 but chose the friend over her. I have never regretted that, although it would have been great if we could have gotten together if circumstances were different.
 

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as what John said, you either lose the friends, for a shot w/ this wonderful girl as you say, or you keep these guys as not even close friends jsut friends and miss out on her. It comes down to is the girl worth the effort? because once he finds out there could be soem drama between you and these guys.
 

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Maybe there's a way to have the best of both worlds? Perhaps if you ask this guy if he'd be cool if you got with this ex, it'll make everything much easier. Who knows? You might even get lucky. He might say "Sure."
 

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Yeah, just ask the guy. I have a feeling he'll let you go after her, if the breakup is for good, I doubt he'll care.

It sounds like you have to lead the conversation, and your not doing a great job. It takes time for some people to open up to each other. Just get some good topics, and go at it.

Good luck.

-LC
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Mr_rogers said:
Maybe there's a way to have the best of both worlds? Perhaps if you ask this guy if he'd be cool if you got with this ex, it'll make everything much easier. Who knows? You might even get lucky. He might say "Sure."
Yeah, that is what I am planning to do. The plan : I get closer and closer to her, tease her, kino. And when I see I can have a shot easily with her, I will ask my bud if he's cool with it.

thx alot ppl.:D
 
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