Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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This girl was all over me

lizardking82

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Met her once before tonight working for a fashion production company, she was the hairdresser. Nice girl, my age, short hair, very open and outwards attitude. OK, first time I was shooting in the studio (photos) and she had finished her work and all the staff was gathered checking me out shooting the girls and she was there, too. After done with work, we all went to have a drink together and I happened to be close to this girl. She started laughing with me almost all the time and was touching me quite a lot for a first time meeting. I knew she started liking me, but we said goodboy in the end and then next day she starts sending me pics on Insta DM. OK, I send her some pics back, we hit a chat that goes on and off for 2-3 days and tonight, I go to this grand opening of a big resort in the city I live. She was there, too. Saw me getting off the car with the guy we both work with and she had a big smile on her face. I went up, said hi to all the other guys and girls and then set close to her. She was all over me right away this time, started touching me, had a bit to drink (wine) and then she started calling me honey and started touching me more and more, a couple of times she got like a centimeter close to my lips, moved her lips on my neck for a little while and on the other hand, I played with her a bit, too, but the whole staff was around, all eyes, and her best friend was there and I didn't wanna make a move in front of them and you cannot really tell them "excuse us for a second" and go some place else cause that's obvious, too. So I tried to stay cool although my penis was moving a bit and I did stay cool, sth that seemed to turn her on even more.

Now, in a couple of hours, probably about 12 hours, I am gonna go shooting at the fashion production again and she's gonna be there. I wanna act cool again, but maybe I am acting too cool and it will cool off altogether. And I wanna invite her out for a private meeting so we can definitely kiss and maybe even more this time. But tomorrow, how do I play it out the best way possible? Cause we're gonna be around for a good while, about 4-5 hours for sure. Also, how do you guys think I played this out? Any tips and suggestions?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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You might as well have reciprocated despite the entire staff being present. From what you describe I would be surprised if the staff haven't noticed something's up between you.

Just ask her already.
 

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you should've just went somewhere and seen if she'd follow you, or you should've told her to follow you then walked off, if anyone asks where you're going say you're getting a snack or going to the bathroom or something
 

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Sounds like it's all going swimmingly. Fill your boots, son.

The only thing I would say is to keep electronic comms to a minimum; no more 3-5 messages over the course of every day that you don't see her, no matter how much she contacts you. Invite her for a drink asap and escalate, escalate and escalate.
 

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Meh, flakey behaviour already. We did not have the shooting today. I wrote to her last night telling her "I think we should meet up during the week and hang out" and she answers back "I don't know, let's see". I replied "What do you mean?" and I know what she means, but am curious how she gonna answer. I think I should not write to her until next time I see her live which will probably be very soon and I will look at her reaction there. That should explain pretty much all of it.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Meh, flakey behaviour already. We did not have the shooting today. I wrote to her last night telling her "I think we should meet up during the week and hang out" and she answers back "I don't know, let's see". I replied "What do you mean?" and I know what she means, but am curious how she gonna answer. I think I should not write to her until next time I see her live which will probably be very soon and I will look at her reaction there. That should explain pretty much all of it.
sounds like an attention wh0re or that someone she wants to make jealous is also there and you're just a pawn in that
 

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I agree with TheMonkeyKing Even calling her would be great! Then you can make plans form there and its kinda odd that your co-workers saw for you but at the end of the day you got the girl so **** it. It honestly sounds like you have this in the bag.
 

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"I don't know, let's see"
Wouldn't even have reacted to that. You put it out there and she gave a vague answer. It's either a test, or there's a hidden agenda. Either way, she didn't accept outright so, just crack on with life.

Reduce the attention temporarily, especially if you bump in to her. If you can give that attention to other girls in her presence, all the better. Dont be rude or ignorant about it, but it's her move next. You are the prize. Don't forget that.
 

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TheMonkeyKing Strikes with some clean a.s.s advice. But don't you think he should call her at some point?
 

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@TheMonkeyKing you are spot on, that is what I am going to do. I have a couple of other girls there at the fashion production where she';s gonna be that are at least half "head and heels over me" and keep following me everywhere I go so that should be pretty good. And yes, on with life of course.

@BrandonCodi no calling. I will meet her in the next 1 or 2 days almost for sure so there won't be a need for calling.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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It might just be a work thing. She might just genuinely be unsure. She might have a lame a$$ bf and prefers you. She might be on the blob and knows she wants to fck you immediately. She might be a virgin. She might be fresh out of a relationship. May be, may be anything.....

It's not to give her a hard time. But patience is certainly a virtue and certainly works better than pushing the issue.

I have a couple of other girls there at the fashion production where she';s gonna be that are at least half "head and heels over me"
It does strike me though, that this may be the reason why she is unsure.
 

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It might just be a work thing. She might just genuinely be unsure. She might have a lame a$$ bf and prefers you. She might be on the blob and knows she wants to fck you immediately. She might be a virgin. She might be fresh out of a relationship. May be, may be anything.....

It's not to give her a hard time. But patience is certainly a virtue and certainly works better than pushing the issue.


It does strike me though, that this may be the reason why she is unsure.
You're quite right. She answered back a couple of minutes ago telling me "I didn't understand your English" (she said this in Albanian). I talk to people around in English quite a lot and as it appears to be, she didn't quite understand my invitation to go out. That changes the situation, but not my mindset. Will keep electronic comm. to a possible minimum and will wait to see her react live again.
 

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