"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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This girl tells me why her interest for me is high!

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I got this girl to cook dinner for me on sunday evening, had a great time! didn't leave her place until 3am, needless to say I did what I had to do, even then she wouldn't let me go. Anyways, while having food she told me why she likes me etc... I didn't ask, she just brought it by saying I am different to other guys, I thought I should share with you guys.

1. I have an aura of confidence

I showed this by keeping eye contact, kino and the way I present myself; The way I talk, stand, walk, postures etc... I also show that I lift weight and have a busy life.

2. I have a strong mentality

Nothing she does effects me, I keep my emotions in check, I did get emotional at one point during dinner because I talked about a friend who passed away. It was not intentional, this actually went in my favor; she saw my soft side.

3. I am different because I don't hound her like most guys do

I don't text much, although I want to contact her all the time but I controlled myself. I call once a week, try keep it light and set up dates at the end of the convo. I always find excuses to hang up after the date is set.

4. I am hard to read, she likes the fact that I am mysterious and keep asking if I am seeing anyone else.

I don't let anything up, she asks if I like her before and I turned the questions on her. I would say something halfway then pull back. I would mention other friends that are girls in our convo, this keeps her wondering about me and other women.

All the things she mentioned I've learnt from here, hope it help guys like me who's trying to learn the way of the DJ.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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That's exactly what works.

The problem with a lot of guys here is they spend soooo much time texting smiley faces to their girls, or talking about feelings, or hanging out 7 days a week...

Girls want men. They want you to be difficult to tie down. They don't want to hear you talk about feelings. They dont want little smiley faces sent via texts. They SAY they do. But that's not reality. Strong and silent (as long as you can loosen up and be fun) always wins over sweet and sentimental.

Good stuff.
 
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Reports like this are very practical and useful, H.

Good work. Just don't let that "soft side" make itself too apparent to her. It does appear that you understand that. It's easy for a guy to show that soft side, and she responds favorably, and suddenly we get conditioned to let it out more and more, until what she first thought was cute is now revolting. Again, H, I know you understand this. I write for the benefit of newbies who might be reading.

Thanks for sharing this.
 
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Iceberg said:
That's exactly what works.

The problem with a lot of guys here is they spend soooo much time texting smiley faces to their girls, or talking about feelings, or hanging out 7 days a week...

Girls want men. They want you to be difficult to tie down. They don't want to hear you talk about feelings. They dont want little smiley faces sent via texts. They SAY they do. But that's not reality. Strong and silent (as long as you can loosen up and be fun) always wins over sweet and sentimental.
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Well articulated, Iceberg. The DJ mindset in a nutshell.
 
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did you bang her yet? I assume so if you're leaving at 3 am. if not, this post is meaningless.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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thats perfect...the key is to maintain it indefinitely.
 
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st_99 said:
did you bang her yet? I assume so if you're leaving at 3 am. if not, this post is meaningless.
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What else could I be doing untill 3!
 
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pdx1138 said:
thats perfect...the key is to maintain it indefinitely.
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amen! (i posted the following before i read your reply)

the trick is learning how to maintain and continue to demontrate all of those qualities in the long term with the same chick

its something i struggle with off and on myself

recognizing that these are the qualities that women respond to is very important in and of itself
 
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Iceberg said:
That's exactly what works.

The problem with a lot of guys here is they spend soooo much time texting smiley faces to their girls, or talking about feelings, or hanging out 7 days a week...

Girls want men. They want you to be difficult to tie down. They don't want to hear you talk about feelings. They dont want little smiley faces sent via texts. They SAY they do. But that's not reality. Strong and silent (as long as you can loosen up and be fun) always wins over sweet and sentimental.

Good stuff.
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Put this as your sig!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Iceberg said:
That's exactly what works.

The problem with a lot of guys here is they spend soooo much time texting smiley faces to their girls, or talking about feelings, or hanging out 7 days a week...

Girls want men. They want you to be difficult to tie down. They don't want to hear you talk about feelings. They dont want little smiley faces sent via texts. They SAY they do. But that's not reality. Strong and silent (as long as you can loosen up and be fun) always wins over sweet and sentimental.

Good stuff.
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Nicely said! I agree!:rockon:
 
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