"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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This girl...should I persue.

theapprentice

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This girl thats in my class has liked me for about a year. About 4 months ago we started hanging out more, maybe once a week or so. Go to lunch on college campus.

But nothing ever evolved out of it. Partly my fault.

The thing with this girl is that trying to get her to commit to a time and place is so hard. She gives evasive answers, which I have tried to counter with my own cleverness.

But no avail. She wont set a time a date for something.

Im just wondering how do I figure out when I'm trying to hard and not getting the idea or when Im not trying hard enough. Because their is no clear signal.

When I back off, and put my mind elsewhere, I start to think about her. Thoughts like "Maybe if I tried harder, or was more slick...etc"

When I ask her out she finds a way to be busy or have a reason for being busy.

I called her out on her sh*t and she said she was sorry and it seemed like she meant it.

But thats besides the point. She keeps giving me little clues that she likes me, by always wanting to talk to me and always being flirty and you get the feeling that the person is trying to win you approval which means they want you to like them.

I get that feeling but she keeps making it hard for me to ask her out.

What should I do?

I don't want to just throw an oppurtunity away because to be honest I don't get that many. Maybe 2 girls will like me in a year to give me their number.

I know you guys are going to tell me I should forget about it.

Which is my choice.

But like I said, Im just wondering how do I figure out when I'm trying to hard and not getting the idea or when Im not trying hard enough. Because their is no clear signal?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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blinkwatt

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Sorry to say this bro,but she is an attention wh0re/flirt. I went through several of these. They like to see what they can have,but in the end careless. They know what they are doing,they make you think they like you then they pull back when you ask them out. Just ignore her and sarge on on other women. Attention wh0res are easily found at work/school so be on the lookout. I had one go so far as to drop something right in front of me,bend down(butt towards me) and back it up on my c0ck and then pick up the object while pushing her butt on me further. I went to ask her out a week later,and it was a no fly...Haha man she doesn't know how I will get her back in time. Here is how you get back at attention wh0res/flirts. At the end of your semester/last day of work just kiss them on the lips whether they like it or not. When you pull back/get pushed back say "Hahahaha,I knew you liked me!" while pointing your finger at them and walk away. Then the next time you see them act like nothing happened!
 
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