"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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This girl is so hard to read!

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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apprenticedj

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You can't be available to her two nights in a row. Tell her you have plans and go radio silence for the evening. She should be texting you early tomorrow asking how your night was, if not, you must hold off on sending a text until she does. Patience grasshopper...
 

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I'm trying, but she's offering to cook me dinner and everything! I don't want her to lose interest...maybe I'm just being blind to the reality, but it seems counter intuitive to not strike while the iron is hot
 

Bassic

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Howiestern said:
Come on Bassic, are you that desperate?
Most definitely not. Anyways I heeded people's advice, now she seems to have lost interest...
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Greasy Pig

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Any more than twice a week and she's your girlfriend.
Remember that and you'll be fine.
I'd suggest only gradually cutting back the contact. Gaming her hard so soon may give her the impression you've pumped and dumped her.
But if this was your intention, rock on.
 

Bassic

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Yeah well we went out last night and she spent the night. she threw out the idea of being FWB, today while hanging out this morning. I think I'm down with that, we'll see how long that lasts though.
 

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Bassic said:
Yeah well we went out last night and she spent the night. she threw out the idea of being FWB, today while hanging out this morning. I think I'm down with that, we'll see how long that lasts though.
How well done do you like your cooked rabbit?
 

Kailex

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Hook. Line. Sinker.

This will not end well.
 

JustOlder_!

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Bang er again ASAP cause this is going to get ugly in a couple of weeks........I figure, this gal is wacked and its gonna get drama filled emotion pretty quickly if she is that after it and your not the first...... ....I will lay odds you don't see that cooked dinner. FWB? She is doing the neighborhood..get in line and hope you don't scratch.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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