"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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This girl is so hard to read!

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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apprenticedj

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You can't be available to her two nights in a row. Tell her you have plans and go radio silence for the evening. She should be texting you early tomorrow asking how your night was, if not, you must hold off on sending a text until she does. Patience grasshopper...
 

Bassic

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I'm trying, but she's offering to cook me dinner and everything! I don't want her to lose interest...maybe I'm just being blind to the reality, but it seems counter intuitive to not strike while the iron is hot
 

Bassic

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Howiestern said:
Come on Bassic, are you that desperate?
Most definitely not. Anyways I heeded people's advice, now she seems to have lost interest...
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Greasy Pig

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Any more than twice a week and she's your girlfriend.
Remember that and you'll be fine.
I'd suggest only gradually cutting back the contact. Gaming her hard so soon may give her the impression you've pumped and dumped her.
But if this was your intention, rock on.
 

Bassic

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Yeah well we went out last night and she spent the night. she threw out the idea of being FWB, today while hanging out this morning. I think I'm down with that, we'll see how long that lasts though.
 

Zunder

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Bassic said:
Yeah well we went out last night and she spent the night. she threw out the idea of being FWB, today while hanging out this morning. I think I'm down with that, we'll see how long that lasts though.
How well done do you like your cooked rabbit?
 

Kailex

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Hook. Line. Sinker.

This will not end well.
 

JustOlder_!

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Bang er again ASAP cause this is going to get ugly in a couple of weeks........I figure, this gal is wacked and its gonna get drama filled emotion pretty quickly if she is that after it and your not the first...... ....I will lay odds you don't see that cooked dinner. FWB? She is doing the neighborhood..get in line and hope you don't scratch.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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