"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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This girl is so difficult, please help me?

Charzilla

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Ok so i met this girl a few weeks back, after a while of hanging out with some friends, her included, she told me she liked me so i told her i liked her too. Ever since then her best friend was like a messenger between us and helped me out with her. We were both shy but someone had to start the conversation so most of the time i was the one talking to her while she still was shy but she's not as shy as she was anymore and now im the one messing up with the shyness. She can be really *****y and then just like apologize a few hours later, she acts really tough around me now. So like whenever i tried to get closer to her she got *****y and like either started something or moved away so i sorta dont even try to get close to her anymore. I dont act the same as before around her, its harder for me to because i guess im afraid she'll act up again and make me look like a fool infront of people but when i do nothing, she thinks i lost interest in her so i have to explain to her that i dont, that its just hard for me to act around her. We talk online and stuff and im pretty good at it with her but when it comes to face to face i cant really make a move because im afraid of that temporary rejection. I asked her out but she said she wasn't sure, i know shes really interested in me but i really cant make the moves on her, to add to it we've even kissed twice. Everytime i tell myself i will, i get confident but when that time comes, i feel like a loser and loose it all. I need help on how to approach her and another thing is that i really dont know what to talk about with her, i feel like i want to start up a conversation between us to get closer but i cant think of a thing.She just acts so hard, Her friend has told me to just go out there and do it, and if people are around her then to just interrupt to get to her and stuff but i cant. So can anybody help me on how to approach her and act around her.
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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jeffthechef

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did you read the fukin dj bible? lmao cause it doesn't seem like it.

BE AN ALPHA. Be a man.
If you want to talk to her, talk to her. If you want her to stop *****ing, ask her why she gets so *****y. if she never opens up, then you'll never get anywhere. But perhaps you should take her out somewhere before you try to get close. Stop letting her wear the pants, cause now you're the one getting cold, which means your man tools are getting cold and curling up into a fetal position to warm itself. She's going to begin to laugh and realize how much she owns you. That analogy made ****ty sense. just be a man.
 
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and another thing is that i really dont know what to talk about with her
What do you like to talk about? You don't have to have a set of things to talk about. Just be yourself and have fun. If you treat her almost like a buddy, you'll get far.

She's a girl so what's the worst thing she can do? Slap you? Girls are just like us. They eat, they sh it, they have insecurities just like the rest of us, and they want to have fun in life.
 

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Didn't read your post, but usually in HS, Too Difficult = Not worth it.
 

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UPDATE- Well tommorrow we're going to the movies with a few friends, so i'm thinking this is my perfect chance to start getting to talk to her more. Most of the people going anyway will be in couples except for me and her and maybe another friend of mine. I think that settles that part of getting her out somewhere even though its not just us.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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