"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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This girl is going away in a month, what should I do...

Canadien

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Ok I've been friend with this girl for the last six months, I wasn't looking for intimacy as I am just starting to get comfortable around girls, learning what makes them tick, I even helped her motivate during her tough days of job seeking ...

But, should I cut off all connection with this girl, if she's fgoing away soon? We talk on MSN daily, so can this still continue to happen when she lives to another city for a job? She doesn't have boyfriend, and doesn't hangout with boys, but has lots of girlfriends, and said would visit Montreal on monthly basis as her parents live here too..

So what should I do?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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happyguy151

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You should definately keep in contact with her bro! I mean why not? She sounds like a good friend so dont let her go! I have had friends move to the other side of the country going to uni and other issues but I still speak to them on a regular basis through msn, txt or calls and we do meet up when we get the chance. Just try to keep the friendship goin! :)
 

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Canadien said:
Ok I've been friend with this girl for the last six months, I wasn't looking for intimacy as I am just starting to get comfortable around girls, learning what makes them tick, I even helped her motivate during her tough days of job seeking ...

But, should I cut off all connection with this girl, if she's fgoing away soon? We talk on MSN daily, so can this still continue to happen when she lives to another city for a job? She doesn't have boyfriend, and doesn't hangout with boys, but has lots of girlfriends, and said would visit Montreal on monthly basis as her parents live here too..

So what should I do?

Keep up the positive attitude man. She's leaving, so what? You can still talk to her online although I'd reccomend the phone. I wouldn't get too attached on getting into a long term thing since she won't be around that often, but a short term or possibly fling type deal would seem possible. What are you looking for in this girl?
 

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Well I am one

Jerky Boi said:
Keep up the positive attitude man. She's leaving, so what? You can still talk to her online although I'd reccomend the phone. I wouldn't get too attached on getting into a long term thing since she won't be around that often, but a short term or possibly fling type deal would seem possible. What are you looking for in this girl?

of those rare breed that always had cousins to hang out with, so never bothered making the real friends, so I am finally in the mode of changing that..

people shiver at though tof making girl into a friend but not me, I want real friends and I want them now, and if things go further then its bonus, but in terms of life expectations, I don't want a girl to be temporary, I want real friendships that aren't broken with such a low thing as feelings.

I will take the opposite approach, having girl as a friend is real cool....
 
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