"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
This girl I like, asked me whether to accept a guy!
- Thread starter Fela Kuti
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“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
spider_007
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TillTheEndOfTime
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Never express your feelings in a mushy way and never ASK for her to be your gf. That is beyond needy, it is pathetic.
Sure she "accepted" him for now. I can assure you that she is NOT attracted. It will not last. She will have her way with him. She can call him at 3 am in the morning for a snack and he'll rush on over with her favourite treat like the little AFC that he is. She will say "jump" and he will ask "how high?"......and wait, you are JEALOUS of him?
He's an AFC. He won't get any. She is doing it out of pity. She is patting herself on the back now for letting a loser feel a little better about himself by "accepting" him.
I have seen a guy CRY because a girl rejected him. You can't get much more AFC than that. Yet a week later she "dated" him. OUT OF PITY. She was NOT attracted. I forgot how long it lasted....maybe a few weeks. NOTHING happened. He was lucky to get a hug. :crackup:
The saying goes to never TELL her your feelings like that directly because it KILLS attraction. AND IT DOES. Firsthand experience AND secondhand experience multiple times has confirmed this fact in my own life. I had a girl even tell me in those words that when her "friend" came out to her, it killed any chances of them dating (because she WAS thinking about it at one point) Maybe she'll "date" you out of PITY, but rest assured there is NO attraction. That's why you DON'T do it.
Anyways, I think you have quite a bit of AFC left in you.....you need some work.
Oh and let me know when they break up. :crackup:
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
why don't you send your testicles too, that would be the only manhood you have leftFela Kuti said:yeah i think so toowhat part of my action is AFC, by the way? and how about the letter? should i send it? i really want to thank her and tell her that i miss her...
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That letter will freak her out, and confuse her. Your best bet is to play it cool, hang with her when its convenient and dont go out of your way to impress her. Remember, its all about pressing the RIGHT buttons.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Your diginity.
Look, if you want advice and you get it, take it. Otherwise, don't post anything. You were actually looking for someone to agree with you, than to actually give you advice.
Now wait til her boyfriend, your 'friend', gets to read a note. What a chump you will look like.
Doesn't seem desperate? ugh, yes you do.
You said: You are sooooo amazing (or whatever it was you said).
A non-desperate man doesn't waste time writing letters. He would have too many to write and moves on to another interested target.
I mean maybe you called each other bf and gf, but you only had 4 dates! I don't even take anything seriously with just being with someone 4 times.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
@ ryannath: i have 8 dates by now. and long ones too. usually from afternoon until night.
well, i don't care if it's the "right" thing to do. the important thing is, it made me feel better. there are times when it's okay to break the "rules", i guess.
so anyway, here's her reply:
"s p e e c h l e s s . ."
btw, my girl friends said that my message is just toooo sweet
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Though by the information this site says, the girl should spit him out very soon as he seem to be following the very epitome of AFCism and the other is following DJism at about a moderate level.
Either way, it does shows DJ is not 100% foolproof, anyone who read around here enough seem to acknowledge that anyways, but this is an interesting match to watch. I'll going to keep watch on this, though honestly for the final winner I still think fella will win out in the end.
As for the letter writing, I wouldn't have likely done that (or many would around here at least), but sometimes it is ok to do something AFC and sweet, sometimes it is not bad to act a bit sweet or romantic even to one that one do anything much likely, ever heard of stories of other doing that and still get the girl? It is AFC, but it is not always suicide. One AFC move can sometimes be beneficial (doing a ton is always bad). At least I wouldn't say it "mail his balls too" and giving up dignity. BTW where in the bible it says you can't write letters is a big cardinal law rule to follow?
Maybe I'm wrong, I'm just gonna watch, interesting thread.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.